replied 9 years ago.
hi kim, thank you so much for answering my questions for me, I have another problem, its kind of severe this time, I really messed things up for me and him, well sunday night I went over and saw him, we're just casual friends right now, we're not boyfriend and girlfriend, and he's still after me about getting a job, I'm trying to find someone that will help me with my lying, but until then I just kept doing it to him, and he got so disgusted with it that he thought it was stupid whenever I told a lie to him, anyway, sunday night we were talking and I told him "I'm so lucky to have someone like you in my life" and he said "you mean you're so lucky to have a friend like me in your life?" and that hurt me when he said that because I'm crazy about him, he's a lot older than me and he has more experience with women because of that and the fact that he has a daughter, oh, and I got his age wrong, he's 42, not 32, I'm sorry about that, it was an accident, ok, well, after that it bothered me for the rest of the night until I got home, it got to me so bad that I don't know what had come over me, I needed to get away from the house I lived in with my mom and my brother because its where he had dropped me off from a lot of dates at, so I packed my stuff in my duffel bag, called my moms 62 year old friend to come and get me at 12:30 am in the morning, well, this guys name is XXXXX XXXXX 62, he's not a good person at all, he's real mean, he lies constantly, he buys prostitutes, sells prescription pills that he gets from a doctor and he's tried to get me to sleep with him in return for a ride, and I have never ever slept with him before, he has tried to make me do things for him riding me around but I refused and he got mad, but he said he had a friend over and he was on his way to come get me, I told David this too, I told him 3 different things about what happened, thats the guy I like, and I snuck outside and asked joe where his friend was at and he said she went home, he took me to a hotel, I got the room key and I asked him to help me find the room since I've never stayed there before, and he did, and when he found it he unlocked the door and turned on the lights for me and he talked to me for a little while, he tried to get me to take my clothes off for him before he left but I told him no 2 times and he finally left, later, my mom and joe came back pounding on my door, turns out, my mom called him to see if he knew where I was at, and he told her where I was at and he even brought her to the hotel and room where I was at, she knocked on the door for about 30 minutes before I called the front desk and told them they were harassing me and not to give them a room key if they ask for one, and she came downstairs to get a key and he told her he was going to have to call the cops if they didn't calm it down, they left not long after that, and later joe called and said he was on his way home when I was watching tv and he said my mom called him and she wanted him to come stay with me so I wouldn't be scared by myself there, and I told him I'll be alright, and he said ok, and hung up, then I saw lights outside the window in my room and it was him inside his truck in the back parking lot where my room was at, pulling out and leaving, this is the part where I really need your help, I told david that exact same story and he didn't believe a word I said, because I stayed around town just walking around, oh, I forgot, my mom called when I was at the hotel and called david and told her I was gone, and he called me a little after 1 am and asked me where I was at and I stuttered but I never did tell him where I was at, I just said "why?" and he hung up on me and turned his phone off, the next morning at 7:15 I talked to him and I told him I had gotten a room and he said "why did you get a room for?" and I lied to him and told him me and my mom got into a fight about my dog and she thought I was pregnant, and she was mad at me, I got tired of us fighting so I left, and he didn't believe that, he said "you're BSing with me again, I don't have time for this, I'm out working trying to make some money like what you need to be doing, don't call me again while I'm working" I got my brother to take me over there at 4 that afternoon because I called him and asked him could I come over and he said "how did you get at the mall?" I told him my brother dropped me off there and he said "I don't care if Joe dropped you off at the mall, just don't lie to me about it" and then he said "listen, just go home, get some rest and you can come over tomorrow and hang out with me, ok? until then you don't have a way over here, joes not going to bring you, I'll talk to you later ok? bye" he hung up on me again, I had to pay my brother $10 in gas but he took me there, and we eventually talked before I was about to leave about the hotel and I told him the whole story, I told him first I was going to meet my ex-bf over there after he got off from work and he said "that doesn't make sense, why would joe come out of his way to come all the way to town, pick up your ex and bring him to the hotel room just so you can see him and joe won't get anything out of it? I'm not stupid, see, this is where you messed up, when you said joe went to pick andrew up from work to bring him over to the hotel, I'm not stupid, and I know you're not, you're just not as smart as I am" and I finally told him what really happened and he thought I had sex with joe, and he said "I don't care if you had sex with joe or not, its the fact that you and him went to a hotel room together, I can't associate myself with people that hangs around crack-heads and somebody thats buys prostitutes, you f***** this whole thing up yourself christy, no more casual friends, no more sex, no more little dates like we used to go on, none of that, I'm sorry, I'm not trying to hurt your feelings but I just feel like I can associate with somebody better that doesn't hang around with crack heads all the time" he wouldn't even let me touch him or anything after that, he said "call your brother and tell him to come get you, you know my trucks messed up and I can't bring you home anymore for a while" I usually stay with him until 10pm on the weekdays and 11pm on fridays, saturdays and sundays, it was 9:30pm when he told me to go home, is there anything I can do to save our relationship or to at least try and get him to change his mind, he said this is all my fault because of me running off with him last night to a hotel, david and joe hates each other by the way, david doesn't like joe at all because of the things that he does and joe doesn't like david because david talks about him, what should I do? should I stay away from him for a while and let him cool off, because he did say he was mad at me for going to the hotel, I know I made a mistake and he says we won't date again but if he's just mad will he change his mind after a while? I'm really upset right now, just answer this whenever you can for me, I'll pay you good for this one, thank you