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It sounds like now that being together formally is a reality, he's getting cold feet. I realize that the two of you have been through a lot together, but you can't make someone feel a certain way. Either he has love for you or he doesn't, or he's just really scared right now at the prospect of things getting serious. Maybe he thinks that you'll want to get married, or that things will get more serious than what you already have. I know you say that you want to move forward, but it seems as if he's trying to move in the opposite direction, and the more you pull, the more he's going to pull away. The question is if you feel whether he is really serious about what he's saying or if you think he just needs some time to himself. If someone really cares about you, you won't have to ask, they will show it in the things they do. Honestly, it sounds like he's telling you flat out how he feels, but I would give it time to get him used to you being single, and seeing that things won't change and he may come around. I welcome your thoughts, let me know if you want to talk more
It's no problem. Sometimes things are hard, and you need to take a breather. Hopefully he will see that going through hard times together can make the relationship stronger sometimes. Life is not perfect no matter who you are with. I'm here if you want to talk more.
I think that when people say its easier for them to be single, so they can make decisions about their life, thats just an excuse. It's not a real reason for not being with someone, it's an excuse you give them when you don't want to be with them. If you have life decisions to make , and you truly love someone, then it's not a problem to have you in their life, in fact it's usually better to have their support. Perhaps he is worried about the things that happened in the past between you, or like I said earlier, perhaps he is getting cold feet because now you are truly free to do what you want without any ties. I think giving it a little time is a good idea, keep in touch, but don't pressure him about it. It's not going to be easy, but if you don't give him space, you'll lose him anyway. You know him best, XXXXX XXXXX many ways, I think you know how he really feels, but are not willing to accept it at this time. Maybe I'm wrong, but you have to be honest with yourself, and that will help you figure out what your next move should be. You don't want to focus on someone who is not willing to put their time, energy and love into you. You've just come through your divorce, and things are going to be very emotional for you. Maybe a little time alone would be a good thing, to help you focus. If he sees that you are taking advantage of your time alone to do some good things for yourself and make your own life better, things may change about how he feels. I welcome your thoughts, let me know if you want to talk more.