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I apologize for the late response, I never got your reply, I'm not sure why. I had a couple more questions. Do you and him talk at all? How long has it been since you split?
What does he say?
It sounds like he's playing games. One one hand he says there's no future, but on the other hand he says you're causing damage. You are right, damage to what, if there's nothing there? To tell you one thing and then say another is just controlling, game playing behavior. The best thing right now might be to ignore him completely....don't look at him, and just give it time to see how he reacts to that. When it seems like he's making the situation only go in his favor, you have to change is so that he's not able to control the situation. If this means walking away, ending the conversation, not taking his calls, etc, until he sees that you refuse to put up with his nonsense. I welcome your thoughts, let me know if you want to talk more
It sounds more to me like he's not sure what he wants. However, he shouldt be taking his inability to make a decision out on you. You have to take the wheel and basically show him that you're not going to be toyed with. Try not to look at him, and don't engage him in any arguments, tell him if there is no future, then to leave you alone, and see how he reacts.