Reply to Ms Chase's Post:
You may have noticed that I am a mental health professional in private practice. My question stems from some references from some of my colleagues to a patient we currently share.
The lady in question is finished with her education, very successful in her career, has a ten year marriage in tact and is in her 40's. Some of her lability it related to substance abuse issues on behalf of her husband. While in therapy, outbursts certainly have not been encouraged, I understand why she reacts in the manner she does - it seems provoked. One of my colleagues, however, who is working with the husband believes that her husband wouldn't drink as much if she weren't such a pill to live with.
She is very responsible with her son, she pays her bills on time, she often reaches out to others and her self-esteem is low because she is in conflict about what to do with her marriage.
But, I am not sure all of this is a BPD patient. In fact, given her husband's lack of consistency with his recovery and his verbally abusive attacks, I have wondered if he is actually a borderline, especially given the little bit I know about his family background.
I would appreciate your take on this - thanks! Laura