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HiCustomer Thank you for asking your question on Just Answer. By the way, it would help me to know:
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-How long have you been dating?
-Does he always pick porn magazines over sex with you?-Do you think it might have an issue with porn and porn magazines?Thank you again for trusting me with your problem. Please reply as soon as possible so that wI can finish answering your question.
It sounds like your boyfriend may have an obsession with porn and may need professional help especially if he passes up the real thing for masterbating, there are men that like porn but not when it comes to having the real thing they usually do that when they don't have the real thing. You need to be honest with your boyfriend and tell him this is bothering you and your relationship and that you feel unattractive when he would rather materbate than make love to you. It may be that he just can't help it and need some help with that. Tell him that your relationship is in jeapordy and you feel like you have to beg for sex when most men would love for their woman to want sex just as much as them. It has nothing to do with you I really think it is an issue with him. He may feel like he can't get the job done without porn or he may have a very high sex drive and obsession with looking at porn magazine and watching porn, have you tried watching it with him and possibly acting out some of it?
You may not be able to help him, no one but a counselor may be able to help him. He has to want it and want help if he doesn't want the help you can not make him go so you have to be willing to make the decision for yourself whether you want to stay and think that the relationship is worth it. If he is rejecting you, how long do you think you can put up with that before you feel like you need and deserve more for yourself. It really depends on whether your boyfriend wants the help. Be honest with him and tell him you are ready to leave if things don't get better intimately between the two of you.
Then you have to do what makes you happy and if being with him isn't doing that for you then maybe it is time for you to make arrangements to find your own place or make arrangements for him to move else where. If you have given him the time that he asked for to try and work through this and still he makes you feel less than then it is time to find someone that will appreciate you and treasure you and not some woman on a porn magazine or video. He is saying that he would rather look at girls he will never meet than be with someone who is more than ready to satisfy his needs. Good luck to you and let me know if you still need my help.