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Were you able to view the answer to your last question? I ask because it was never accepted. Let me know.
did he spend the night sat?
have you been intimate with him?
Why dod you split up with him?
How did he act like a jerk sunday?
aside from loving him, why do you want to be with him?
At this point he's made it clear to you that he's only interested in having you as a sexual partner, so the only thing left to do is decide if you want to be that or if you are looking for a more fulfilling relationship. When you agree to 'just sex', there can be certain rules that apply, like no feelings, no obligation to call or have any set days to see each other. Basically, not to have any responsibility to each other and if you meet someone else, or he meets someone else, there won't be any explanations. There's no guarantee that a sexual relationship will turn back into a regular relationship, you just have to decide if that's enough for you. I welcome your thoughts, let me know if you want to talk more.
I mentioned this in your last question. You can't make someone fall for you again. If a person doesn't have that caring or love inside them there's nothing you can do to put it there as we are not in control of other peoples feelings or emotions.
One way to force him to confront how he feels or what he wants is to stop sleeping with him altogether. Why should he make a decision to be with you romantically, when he can always be with you sexually. You have to make a decision to control your own life, and show him that he can't run your life. If you walk away from the sex then he will be forced t confront his emotions and make a decision.....the bad part is he may not make the decision you want him to make and you could lose him altogether.
Jenna, I would let him know that you care about him, but you don't feel comfortable with a sex buddy relationship. Love is not just about sex, it's about respect, partnership, caring, and compromise. It's not easy to find love in this world, and when you do, you should respect it. Let him know that you have too much respect for yourself and you are looking to have a friend as well as a lover, someone you can share your life with, not just your bed. This puts the decision in your hands, and leaves it up to him to decide if he's willing to lose you.