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I have been married for 37yrs to a wonderful man but ...

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I have been married for 37yrs to a wonderful man but he was not my first true love. I was 16 when I fell in love for the first it was 1967 I dated thi young man for 7months, we spent every spare moment together, suddenly we moved away and I never said goodbye to him, my parents were against me stayingf in touch. I wrote letters but never got a reply not sure he got them. I still to this day think about him all the time. I did about 3yrs ago make contact with him we talked a little. I woul like to talk to him more about our time together and find out why he never looked me up. he said once that he loved me he,is a couple years older. I would llike to know more about what he did with his life after I left town.He is married has been for over thity years also. I told him once that I had waited for him to come and get me he said he was in college and left it at that. am I crazy are asking to much to want to see the guy and talk about old times?
Submitted: 9 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Ms Chase replied 9 years ago.


I wouldn't say that you are crazy, but it may be asking too much of someone who is married. It's not uncommon for people to look back on high school or college loves and become reminiscent and sometimes even obsessed with what they once had, or why things didn't work out, or what they could have done different or what the other person was thinking back then. If he didn't expound on why he didn't come back, he may not have had the same feelings, or he may no longer have those feelings, or even be embarrassed that he didn't come back or that he disappointed you somehow. I'm not sure what kind of contact you've had (email, phone, letters) but if he's not also reciprocating these feelings of wanting to reminisce or reaching out to you on his own, then you might want to leave it to casual talk or emails. Forty years is a long time, and people change. There's nothing wrong with being friends, or keeping in touch to a limit, but getting to focused on him or old times isn't good. I welcome your thoughts, let me know if you want to talk more.


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