If you are there for the money, and he is there for companionship and the looks for his career, then that is NO marriage.
You say he was burned in the past.. well, a lot of people generally are if they were in a previous relationship. But that was then and this is now. If he can't treat you as you deserve, then it would be best to see if you can get alimony if you were to divorce.
You say you love him, but you don't say if deep down he loves you. If there is love on both sides, then it could work out.. but love, compromise etc. needs to be done or it will not work. And as I'm sure you know, it does take 2 people to make a relationship and marriage to work out. It can't be one sided.
I'm sorry he won't see a counselor, as it would probably do him wonders. Plus it may even be good if he were to possibly be evaluated for a low dose antidepressant as well. As it sounds like he is just not happy in general. Which then he takes it out on you.
It's really true when people say one has to love themselves before they can really love someone else. And it doesn't seem like he is happy.
I don't know what kind of speaking terms you are both on, or if you would like this to work out. But if he won't "talk" to you.. then perhaps write him a letter. Tell him how you feel, and what you would like. Also mention what good things there are about him as well. And perhaps there are things you miss that use to occur between you both.
Remind him that you are not his ex and you just want to live as a family etc.
But he will need to change and find out what makes him happy too. If he is not willing then nothing will get better and things can actually get worse. Keep in mind that nobody can make you feel bad, unless you let them. So keep your head up because you are a good person and deserve to be happy. I know you have some medical issues that prevent you from earning an income. But don't let him take anything away from you. Be strong.. don't cry over him.
And if writing that letter doesn't help, then chances are he is right. He's a jerk and you need to find a way to better your situation, if that means a divorce, alimony, lump sum payment etc.
I hope this helps and gives you a different perspective of looking at all this.
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