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Who is greg to you?
How old are the two of you?
Do you think he's interested in you?
Can you tell me some of the things that happened?
How is his fear affecting your relationship?
Are you officially dating now?
Are you willing to take things slow?
Thanks you for that additional info. At some point, we are no longer children, we put away out childish ways and we act like grown ups. Ok, his girlfriend treated him bad, but you are not her. If he has known you for 12 years, then he knows what kind of person you are. If you have dated for 3 months, then you have shown him that you are not like his ex. You have to be the one to decide how long this 'trial' will go on. How long you will be tested before he decides that you are not here to hurt him. He's old enough to see you as a person and not just something that might happen to him. There's nothing wrong with understanding how someone is feeling, but giving too much of yourself without asking for anything in return is a recipe for disaster, not only are you a safety net, but you become a dispensable safety net.
I welcome your thoughts, let me know if you want to talk more