Ms. Chase will be with you shortly. I sincerely XXXXX XXXXX she has given you very sound and correct advice regarding you dilemma.
I also want to let you know that I am not trying to invade your conversation. As an expert in JA relationship category it is not uncommon for us to view one another's work to learn and to offer support for times occur that each of us can see different things than the other.
This is why I have entered. While reading through all of your posts with MS. Chase there are a couple things that I believe you might want to consider and address them with Ms. Chase when she returns or when you have finished them.
While she has provided sound advice for you it appears as though you are somewhat stuck, in that you still have a need for someone to give you approval to engage in something that is morally unacceptable to you. If you thought that it was alright you would not be experiencing a struggle as you are, you would jump in and do it.
These are the things you may need to consider while looking for the answer to your question.
1. You state that she has invited you to church with her...How many churches do you know of that condone adultery?
2. You state that she is virtually an angel...What would you think of a woman that would flaunt a potential lover in front of her church family and bring embarrassment to her husband?
3. I have not seen one area that she has pursued you at all with reference to a romance.
You did state Today was the first time that she implied . Is it possible that you misinterpreted this? Implications are easily heard in a different voice by everyone that hears them.
I think she wants to see me without him, but has been careful not to be obvious.
Note that you have used the work think... Are you aware that the mind is so powerful that in situations such as yours...The desire that you have for this woman can allow you to see, think and hear things that are not there at all?
You've also indicated that you don't believe that her husband really likes you...Perhaps, he and his wife have been kind to you but your persistence to be with them has brought him to the point of disgust for his patience and tolerance are exhausted.
What size chains is her husband holding her down with...You state that she has hinted, indicated, etc. that she is not happy and wants to leave. Being that she is still with him I am led to believe that he must have her chained up and locked in a closet. If you say that this is not true then I would ask you what is keeping her there?
I so agree with Ms. Chase that for you to conquer an addiction is wonderful...Did you learn while you were in treatment that there are many forms of addiction and have you asked your self if what you are experiencing may be another addiction...It really sounds like it is to me.
And if it is and you win the lady away from her husband, the day will come that she resents and eventually hates you for even if she is unhappy no one, and I mean no one can leave one relationship and enter another successfully without first processing it. This process takes from 3 to 5 years.
With this if she's unhappy and joins you it will only be because she will view you as her savior...After she has processed her feelings reality will set in and when she begins to resent you for encouraging her to leave you will have a very different picture of the Angel.
Yes, do discuss these things with Miss Chase!