Relationship

Have Relationship Questions? Ask a Counselor for Answers ASAP

Ask an Expert,
Get an Answer ASAP!

Relationship
This answer was rated:

How am I related to my Moms cousins son Are we ...

How am I related to...
How am I related to my Mom's cousin's son? Are we too close to be dating one another?
Show More
Show Less
Ask Your Own Relationship Question
Answered in 2 minutes by:
5/22/2006
Ms Chase
Ms Chase, Life Coach
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 2,897
Experience: Over 20 yrs experience with Relationships, Sexuality, Friendship, and Family Issues
Verified

Hi honey, how have you been?


give me the breakdown...


you're mom's cousin, is it her mothers, sisters childs son?

Ask Your Own Relationship Question
Crista
Crista, Professional Genealogist
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 37
Experience: Member of the Association of Professional Genealogists
Verified
If he is your mother's first cousin (meaning they have the same grandparents) then he would be your 2nd Cousin.

About half of the U.S. states have laws prohibiting 1st cousins from marrying. But, very few laws relating to 2nd cousins exist. Interestingly, the U.S. is the only western country with such restrictions.

A great information website is found at:
http://www.cousincouples.com/

Hope that helped!
Crista
Crista, Professional Genealogist
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 37
Experience: Member of the Association of Professional Genealogists
Verified
Crista and 87 other Relationship Specialists are ready to help you
Ask your own question now

If I'm not mistaken it would be your second cousin twice removed? It gets a little crazy, but I'm adding a couple links here because there's a difference if theres a shared grandparent, great grandparent, ect.


Dating a first cousin is usually the only one frowned upon, but the second link offers more info on that as well. Good luck. How are things going with the ex hub? How are the girls?


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Family (scroll down to cousins)


http://www.tedpack.org/cuzdate.html


Lisa

Ms Chase
Ms Chase, Life Coach
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 2,897
Experience: Over 20 yrs experience with Relationships, Sexuality, Friendship, and Family Issues
Verified
Ms Chase and 87 other Relationship Specialists are ready to help you
Ask your own question now
Customer reply replied 11 years ago
Reply to Lisa's Post: Hey Girl,
I haven't heard from you in forever. How are you doing? Staying busy I am sure. How is your daughter doing? Out of school for the summer yet?

Okay here is the breakdown without confusing you.

My mom is an only child her dad had 6 siblings and one of them was Goldie Harris. She had 2 boys Dick and Don. Dick's son Kent is the one that I have been keeping in contact for years and he and I have so much in common with one another. About 3 years ago before I met my second husband, Kent and I dated for a while. Then some unfortunate things happend and we lost touch for about 3 years. In the mean time I would see him every week at church and his brother, is on staff at our church and I saw him all the time. About 2 weeks ago, Kent's dad died and he called me to tell me about it and so I went to the viewing. That night when I walked in the funeral home and saw him again after 3 years my heart sunk and I just wanted to hug and hold him forever. SInce then we have talked every day several times a day and last night we went out for dinner and movie and then back to his place for a few. He mentioned us dating and that he really felt that we would have a AWESOME relationship and be together until eternity, but wasn't sure it would be accepted by our families because of us being related. I told him about this site and that I would see what it said. So how is he really related and what do you think?

Love you,
Kell
Sorry I jumped into the middle of this. Obviously the two of you (Kellie and Lisa) know each other well.

But, to answer Kellie's last question:
Your great-grandparents are generation 1.
Your grandfather and Goldie are generation 2.
Your mother and Dick are generation 3.
You and Kent are generation 4.

Therefore:
Goldie is your mother's aunt.
Dick is your mother's 1st cousin. (They share common grandparents.)
You and Kent are 2nd cousins. (Meaning you share the same great-grandparents.)

Not to confuse things but - The "removed" business doesn't occur until you start removing yourself in generations from each other. So, for example you and Dick are 1st cousins, once removed.

As for whether or not to have a relationship with him - I say follow your heart. The website I mentioned above gives some great resources for combating any arguments you may encounter. But, I'll leave it to your friend to give you more specific counsel regarding how to handle the possible reaction of your family
Crista
Crista, Professional Genealogist
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 37
Experience: Member of the Association of Professional Genealogists
Verified
Crista and 87 other Relationship Specialists are ready to help you
Ask your own question now

I think the fact that you guys dated before is a plus, because you're familiar with each other and each others feelings and that trumps dating some guy you have no clue about any day (smile) It sounds nice and I wouldnt worry about it as long as the 2nd cousin thing isn't an issue that you guys lose sleep over. My daughter is good, she gets out in a week. What about your beautiful girls?


Did your family give you grief when the two of you dated before? I would have thought you'd have mentioned it if that was the case, let me know.



Much love


Lisa

Ask Your Own Relationship Question

Hey I forgot to tell you, I'm going to be in an art exhibit for the XXXXX XXXXX Festival here in GA....you can see my art at http://www.myspace.com/chaseart


let me know what u think.. :)

Ms Chase
Ms Chase, Life Coach
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 2,897
Experience: Over 20 yrs experience with Relationships, Sexuality, Friendship, and Family Issues
Verified
Ms Chase and 87 other Relationship Specialists are ready to help you
Ask your own question now
Customer reply replied 11 years ago
Reply to Lisa's Post: Yes because all they look at is that we are family and that is as far as it goes. But wouldn't you say that it shouldn't matter what they think or say at this point? As long as we are both happy than why should they not be happy for us too?

The girls are good. They get out of school on the 15th of June so not much longer to go. They are really excited about the summer.

They are with me this weekend and I am really looking forward to it.

Brennah my youngest is almost 10months old and I can't hardly believe it. Time has flown by so fast. Her Dad is still being an Ass, but that is how he is always. How about your other half how is he doing?

Gotta run talk to you soon!

Hugs,
Kellie

My other half is good....he actually disagreed with me on my answer to you. I felt that if you and Kent have been together before and feel happy....you are breaking no laws, then be happy. He disagreed and said it was still too close of a family bond. I say its really up to you.


Will your girls be with you all summer?


Lisa

Ask Your Own Relationship Question
Customer reply replied 11 years ago
Reply to Lisa's Post: No I only get them for 2 weeks out of the summer in addition to my normal every other weekend schedule. And I usually try to take them on a trip somewhere but I am not sure I will be able to afford that this summer. We will see.

Do you have any photos of you 2 together that you could scan and send to my email?

talk to you soon girl!

Kellie

yes, I will scan something this weekend and email it to you.



much love lisa

Ask Your Own Relationship Question
Customer reply replied 11 years ago
Reply to Lisa's Post: Thaks girl!!!
Looking forward to seeing it!

Love,
Kellie
Ask Ms Chase Your Own Question
Ms Chase
Ms Chase
Ms Chase, Life Coach
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 2,897
2,897 Satisfied Customers
Experience: Over 20 yrs experience with Relationships, Sexuality, Friendship, and Family Issues

Ms Chase is online now

A new question is answered every 9 seconds

How JustAnswer works:

  • Ask an ExpertExperts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional AnswerVia email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site. Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction GuaranteeRate the answer you receive.

JustAnswer in the News:

Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.

What Customers are Saying:

Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help.

Mary C.Freshfield, Liverpool, UK

This expert is wonderful. They truly know what they are talking about, and they actually care about you. They really helped put my nerves at ease. Thank you so much!!!!

AlexLos Angeles, CA

Thank you for all your help. It is nice to know that this service is here for people like myself, who need answers fast and are not sure who to consult.

GPHesperia, CA

I couldn't be more satisfied! This is the site I will always come to when I need a second opinion.

JustinKernersville, NC

Just let me say that this encounter has been entirely professional and most helpful. I liked that I could ask additional questions and get answered in a very short turn around.

EstherWoodstock, NY

Thank you so much for taking your time and knowledge to support my concerns. Not only did you answer my questions, you even took it a step further with replying with more pertinent information I needed to know.

RobinElkton, Maryland

He answered my question promptly and gave me accurate, detailed information. If all of your experts are half as good, you have a great thing going here.

DianeDallas, TX

< Previous | Next >

Meet the Experts:

TherapistMaryAnn

TherapistMaryAnn

Counselor

1,706 satisfied customers

Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues

Ms Chase

Ms Chase

Life Coach

2,897 satisfied customers

Over 20 yrs experience with Relationships, Sexuality, Friendship, and Family Issues

Alicia_MSW

Alicia_MSW

Psychotherapist

468 satisfied customers

Specializing in relationship/family counseling

Dr. Norman Brown

Dr. Norman Brown

Marriage Therapist

426 satisfied customers

Family Therapist & teacher 35+ yrs; PhD research in couples

Dr. L

Dr. L

Psychologist

366 satisfied customers

Licensed as a Psychologist and Marriage & Family Therapist.

Suzanne

Suzanne

Therapist, LCSW

338 satisfied customers

Experienced in treating trauma, relationship issues, co-dependency

DrJackiePhD

DrJackiePhD

Doctor

336 satisfied customers

I have been doing research in relational/interpersonal communication since 1998. My Ph.D. is in interpersonal communication.

< Previous | Next >

Related Relationship Questions
My husband, who has been semi-retired for 1 year, has again
my husband, who has been semi-retired for 1 year, has again become obsessed with tracking down a former fiancee who ended the relationship in 1967. He had a previous 'episode' 16 years ago, a a time o… read more
Angela
Angela
Counselor
490 satisfied customers
My ex and I of 2 years broke up on Sept 6th if this year. A
my ex and I of 2 years broke up on Sept 6th if this year. A week later she was dating someone new. Her and I were still having sex until the end of Oct. So she was cheating on him weekly with me. Now … read more
Rosemary S.
Rosemary S.
Master\u0027s Degree
7 satisfied customers
My boyfriend has been a compulsive liar almost the entire
My boyfriend has been a compulsive liar almost the entire relationship. Me finding texts to other women, catching him in ringing women, you name it. We now have a child together. My sexual urges are c… read more
S. August Abbott
S. August Abbott
Etiquette consultant
Doctoral Degree
260 satisfied customers
Can I email my fiancee's boss to stop giving my fiancée
Can I email my fiancee's boss to stop giving my fiancée personal advice about our relationship if it's hurting our relationship?… read more
TherapistMaryAnn
TherapistMaryAnn
Counselor
Master's Degree
1,706 satisfied customers
I was wondering after I gave advice and my attitude, heart
I was wondering after I gave advice and my attitude, heart and soul, poured into this how do I go about getting another present that as good as you… read more
Rosemary S.
Rosemary S.
Master\u0027s Degree
7 satisfied customers
My question is about drinking. When my fiancé and I met I
Hi. My question is about drinking. When my fiancé and I met I enjoyed a drink at the end of the day to relax. That hasn't changed as I still enjoy a drink after work. … read more
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
167 satisfied customers
The man I a dating says he wants to take a time out. He does
The man I a dating says he wants to take a time out. He does feel an emotional bond He says he does not know if is me or he might have Asperger S. He has After 6 months he has never sais he likes me N… read more
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
167 satisfied customers
Thank you for your response about my relationship. I do
Thank you John for your response about my relationship. I do understand what you are saying and I have decided to give him space. He told me yesterday that he thinks he needs some space because he isn… read more
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
167 satisfied customers
My boyfriend kicked me out of the apartment because he found
Hi, my boyfriend kicked me out of the apartment because he found out that I was meeting with a guy friend of mine to talk. I didn't tell him I was meeting up with him and he found out because he track… read more
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
167 satisfied customers
Was speaking to this guy on Facebook and Snapchat and I
Hey I was speaking to this guy on Facebook and Snapchat and I stupidly deleted him because I was going through a lot and took it out on him but I added him back and he hasn't deleted me again I have s… read more
Rosemary S.
Rosemary S.
Master\u0027s Degree
7 satisfied customers
Ongoing relationships with a man who really doesn't care
Hello, ongoing relationships with a man who really doesn't care about me, even though he thinks he does!! … read more
TherapistJen
TherapistJen
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Master\u0027s Degree
951 satisfied customers
I'm having a real issue. I just ended my engagement at the
I just ended my engagement at the end of July and moved away. When I ended the engagement I was on anti-depressants. We remained friends and then one day he said he didn't want to talk anymore and didn't want to text and didn't want to see each other anymore. It threw me for a loop but I was okay with it. I am coming off of Paxil and starting something new. And now it feels as if I'm having feelings I didn't know I had. I wonder if I made the wrong decision. And now he won't answer my calls my texts nothing. I've known him since 7th grad and we got engaged at 35 to each other. Our relationship was very passionate. The highs were so high and the lows so low. I miss him. It's my birthday today and the first one I have spent without him and he won't answer my calls or emails. I know this sounds like a stalker but we were engaged for god's sake. I'm not just some one night stand. And now I'm thinking because I was on an antidepressant I made the worst decision of my life. I am highly emotional right now and so very depressed … read more
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
167 satisfied customers
You helped me before and I would like your advice again. I
This is for Therapist Mary Ann Hi Mary Ann, You helped me before and I would like your advice again. I will give you a lot of history in a nut shell for you to understand.Me: raised by my mother she h… read more
TherapistMaryAnn
TherapistMaryAnn
Counselor
Master's Degree
1,706 satisfied customers
I went on a date with this really great guy. We really hit
I went on a date with this really great guy. We really hit it off so well that I made the mistake of sleeping with him. Afterwards, he still seemed very interested from calling, texting, and wanting t… read more
Rosemary S.
Rosemary S.
Master\u0027s Degree
7 satisfied customers
My ex and I of 2 YRS broke up in the beginning of Sept (she
My ex and I of 2 YRS broke up in the beginning of Sept (she broke up with me because she said I wasn't who I used to be ans i created doubt in her mind about us). A week after we broke up she started … read more
Rosemary S.
Rosemary S.
Master\u0027s Degree
7 satisfied customers
Seven months ago, I got dumped by a man I consider my
Seven months ago, I got dumped by a man I consider my soulmate. It's been the most painful breakup I've ever experienced. Even though we were only together a little over a year, we had a very deep con… read more
Rosemary S.
Rosemary S.
Master\u0027s Degree
7 satisfied customers
I have a question about something that keeps coming up, and
I have a question about something that keeps coming up, and perhaps I need a males perspective… read more
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
167 satisfied customers
I dreamed last nignt in black an, that the man that i
hello i dreamed last nignt in black an white , that the man that i secretly love was combing my hair. i was sitting on the floor my head on his lap , he had a black com and he was so gentle combing an… read more
DreamsBySue
DreamsBySue
Social Worker
Masters Degree (MSW)
68 satisfied customers
Disclaimer: Information in questions, answers, and other posts on this site ("Posts") comes from individual users, not JustAnswer; JustAnswer is not responsible for Posts. Posts are for general information, are not intended to substitute for informed professional advice (medical, legal, veterinary, financial, etc.), or to establish a professional-client relationship. The site and services are provided "as is" with no warranty or representations by JustAnswer regarding the qualifications of Experts. To see what credentials have been verified by a third-party service, please click on the "Verified" symbol in some Experts' profiles. JustAnswer is not intended or designed for EMERGENCY questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals.

Disclaimer: Information in questions, answers, and other posts on this site ("Posts") comes from individual users, not JustAnswer; JustAnswer is not responsible for Posts. Posts are for general information, are not intended to substitute for informed professional advice (medical, legal, veterinary, financial, etc.), or to establish a professional-client relationship. The site and services are provided "as is" with no warranty or representations by JustAnswer regarding the qualifications of Experts. To see what credentials have been verified by a third-party service, please click on the "Verified" symbol in some Experts' profiles. JustAnswer is not intended or designed for EMERGENCY questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals.

Show MoreShow Less

Ask Your Question

x