I'm Doug, and I'm sorry to hear of the confusion. My goal is to provide you with excellent service today.
This seems like a very crucial matter for you, and your questions and issues suggest that an in-depth conversation might best suit your needs. If you are interested, for a nominal charge I can offer you a phone conference as opposed to continuing in this question and answer thread. I will make that offer to you after I get this posted to your question thread. All you need do is accept the offer if you would like me to call. Let me know if you don't want a call and I can continue here.
Given the real complexity of establishing each of your shares of the value of the home, I would strongly suggest that a phone call is most appropriate in this situation.
In order to give you a clear and concise answer, I will need some additional information about the circumstances, please.
1. Are you still just separated, or are you now divorced? If divorced now, when?
2. Who has resided in the home since separation?
3. Do you have a marital settlement agreement, or are you preparing one now?
Thanks in advance,