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i have a 6 year old about to turn seven.and im trying to teach him discipline because i don't wanna spank or hit. So ive been introducing tasks around the house. And geting him to say yes sir and no sir. Also getting him to stand at attension. And teaching him not to salute and not fidget. Also teaching him to speak when spoken to. Was wondering what your thoughts where about me utilizing this method.
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Parenting Counselor: John-Michaels, Counselor (LPC) replied 4 months ago
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Hello, my name is***** am an lpc and have worked with kids and parents for over 30 years. I also have raised two children of my own and still have four children at home. I applaud your efforts at raising a respectful, well behaved child. I fear though that your techniques may backfire on you as they reach their teen and young adult years. Honestly, you will likely benefit from this approach through the elementary years, but I fear as the child approaches adulthood, he is liable to rebel. I believe the goal of parenting is to raise up independent, productive, compassionate adults that contribute to society. With this in mind I offer you these parenting pointers:EFFECTIVE DISCIPLINE:•Clear Expectations - make sure your children know what your expectations are and what will happen if they do or don’t do what you say .•Communicated Effectively - Say what you mean, mean what you say, but never be mean with what you say. Remain calm and do not yell, Results are much more effective than rage.•Consistent Results - The same results for the same Behavior here every time no matter what•Logical Consequences - The punishment should fit the crime. He does not share, he does not play. He doesn’t put it up, he loses it.•Reasonable Constraint - Do not over discipline. Always leave room for further discipline as well as for always leave room for further discipline as well as for Improvement.•Covered with Love - no matter what he does, make sure he knows he’s loved.I also work toward three target behaviors I think you will appreciate. A well behaved child will:
1. Be RESPONSIBLE. They will do what they are told, when they are told, and how they are told to do it.
2. Take RESPONSINILITY. If they make a mistake, they own up to it.
3. Be RESPECTFUL. Treat those in authority with the respect due their position.
I honestly believe those three behaviors are all you need to be successful in life.
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Parenting Counselor: John-Michaels, Counselor (LPC) replied 4 months ago
I hope you will consider this. Please tell me what you think . I want to be a help to you.
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Customer reply replied 4 months ago
I should say that i do not do this throughout the entire time that hes with me. Only when its time to clean up and do chores.
Parenting Counselor: John-Michaels, Counselor (LPC) replied 4 months ago
if You cover it with love, it might work. I’m not criticizing you as much as just offering an alternative.
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Customer reply replied 4 months ago
sir. I always hug him, give him lots of kisses. Tell him that I love him.
Parenting Counselor: John-Michaels, Counselor (LPC) replied 4 months ago
I hope I was a help to you. Will you do me a favor and give me a five star rating for my answer so I can be paid for it. If you have any comments or questions please post them here. I want to help you.Thank you!
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