Parenting

Have parenting questions? Ask a parenting counselor for answers

Ask an Expert,
Get an Answer ASAP!

I raised my little girl for almost 4 years very close to me,

Customer Question
to build a strong bond...
i raised my little girl for almost 4 years very close to me, to build a strong bond. i was a young single mom and did the best i knew how. i then ended up introducing someone into both of our lives that i know very well and have always knew he was my one and only, and my little one and he are nothing short of daughter and daddy to him, her, and anyone who sees them. but its hurting her to see me not completely focused on her, she gets sad when i tuck her in at night and doesn't get why i'd choose to sleep with him at night instead of her, and she's just before the age of 5 and i'm not sue how to explain it so she knows that its not that i DONT want to, but theres only 3 of us in the family so in her eyes shes being made to sleep alone and its breaking my heart that she can't see it the way adults would. not only is this a problem but she gets jealous when im talking to him and interrupts most conversing we do if she isnt included even for like 1 minute. how can i explain to her and help her understand and transition so she can adjust easier? We were in a way forced to move from a home with just her and i, into his home temporarily until we all got a new home, together, bc it was my only option financially, but it IS what i wanted for every other reason but it just wasnt enough transition time is what im saying but it needed to happen.
Submitted: 4 months ago.Category: Parenting
Show More
Show Less
Ask Your Own Parenting Question
Answered in 2 hours by:
12/15/2017
Parenting Counselor: TherapistJen, LCSW, CPC replied 4 months ago
TherapistJen
TherapistJen, LCSW, CPC
Category: Parenting
Satisfied Customers: 3,784
Experience: Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Certified Coach Mom of Twins.
Verified
She is having a natural reaction to having to share you all of a sudden. There will be some time needed for this adjustment. Continue to spend special time with her as well as time together all three of you. Maintain a nice gentle boundary with her when she interrupts or tries to pull you away from him you can simply say give me one moment sweetheart when I am done talking I can respond to you. In time she will adjust but right now it is just during this transition phase that she has trouble sharing you. It is healthier for her to be sleeping on her own anyway so again this will be an adjustment period. When you tuck her in spend an extra 5 minutes with her maybe reading her a book and giving her that alone time with you so she feels safe and comfortable. When she asks why she cant sleep with you you let her know that at this age it is the right thing for her to be a big girl and just start sleeping on her own. Her feelings won't change overnight so it will take some time and practice with this new routine for her to get comfortable. Let her do it in her own time and in her own way with gentle boundaries around it all.
Ask Your Own Parenting Question
Parenting Counselor: TherapistJen, LCSW, CPC replied 4 months ago

I await your thoughts.

Ask Your Own Parenting Question
Customer reply replied 4 months ago
That exactly what I do, like to the T, except I spend like an hour reading books and then mama snuggle time for about 20 mins. But she gets upset when I tell her I'm going out of the room and guilty me and says why can't she stay up with us bc we are a family and can't seem to understand the concept that just like her and I have alone time that mommy and "her daddy Ryan" need it just like her and I. Special time is a concept that she immediately dismisses when I explain it that way. It's been about 2 months now and she's made almost no improvement and it's ripping my heart out! Lol
Parenting Counselor: TherapistJen, LCSW, CPC replied 4 months ago

And keep in mind she is 5 so all kids guilt even with other situations...2 months may feel like a long time, but at her age she needs more time to adjust. Keep the boundaries you are setting and in time, things may ease up.

Ask Your Own Parenting Question
Parenting Counselor: TherapistJen, LCSW, CPC replied 4 months ago
Please take a moment to click the rating faces to rate my support. You are not charged again for doing so but without it I do not receive credit for my time and support. Thanks so much and I'm here to support you again if you need.
Ask Your Own Parenting Question
Was this answer helpful?
Ask TherapistJen Your Own Question
TherapistJen
TherapistJen
TherapistJen, LCSW, CPC
Category: Parenting
Satisfied Customers: 3,784
3,784 Satisfied Customers
Experience: Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Certified Coach Mom of Twins.

TherapistJen is online now

A new question is answered every 9 seconds

How JustAnswer works:

  • Ask an ExpertExperts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional AnswerVia email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site. Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction GuaranteeRate the answer you receive.

JustAnswer in the News:

Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.

What Customers are Saying:

Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help.

Mary C.Freshfield, Liverpool, UK

This expert is wonderful. They truly know what they are talking about, and they actually care about you. They really helped put my nerves at ease. Thank you so much!!!!

AlexLos Angeles, CA

Thank you for all your help. It is nice to know that this service is here for people like myself, who need answers fast and are not sure who to consult.

GPHesperia, CA

I couldn't be more satisfied! This is the site I will always come to when I need a second opinion.

JustinKernersville, NC

Just let me say that this encounter has been entirely professional and most helpful. I liked that I could ask additional questions and get answered in a very short turn around.

EstherWoodstock, NY

Thank you so much for taking your time and knowledge to support my concerns. Not only did you answer my questions, you even took it a step further with replying with more pertinent information I needed to know.

RobinElkton, Maryland

He answered my question promptly and gave me accurate, detailed information. If all of your experts are half as good, you have a great thing going here.

DianeDallas, TX

< Previous | Next >

Meet the Experts:

Cher

Cher

Teacher

100 satisfied customers

Extensive Experience working with Children/Teens; M.A. Teacher/Tutor 40+ yrs.; Parent of 2

Jennifer

Jennifer

School Psychologist

77 satisfied customers

Collaborative parent consultation on everything from modifying behavior to child development.

professional_Alison

professional_Alison

Child Care

77 satisfied customers

Degree in early years,16 years experience in childcare

Dr. L

Dr. L

Psychologist

40 satisfied customers

Licensed as psychologist and marriage and family therapist

Dr. Shirley Schaye

Dr. Shirley Schaye

Doctor

38 satisfied customers

PhD-Psych; Certif. Psychoanalyst NPAP& NYFS; Memb.APsaA;IPA; Pub.Author; Teach/Supervise Therapy

Eveningstargazer

Eveningstargazer

Family Counselor

31 satisfied customers

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT)

Alicia_MSW

Alicia_MSW

Family Counselor

21 satisfied customers

Licensed social worker and psychotherapist

< Previous | Next >

Related Parenting Questions
My son is 10 (almost 11) and in 5th grade. Whenever he is
My son is 10 (almost 11) and in 5th grade. Whenever he is reprimanded or told no, he flips out. Says shut up, you're trash, etc. I have tried smacking him or sending him to his room. It is very embarr… read more
Carlett F
Carlett F
Therapist
Master\u0027s Degree
32 satisfied customers
Issues with hygiene 13 year old daughter. We are having
We are having issues with her not brushing her teeth properly, finally got her gums to quit bleeding after over a month of me brushing her teeth now they are bleeding again because she isn't brushing them properly. She is refusing to wipe properly also and has discharge from that issue. We have had her use sanitary pads to help with discharge, she in turns pees in them. Wtf we are at wits end on how to handle this … read more
Carlett F
Carlett F
Therapist
Master\u0027s Degree
32 satisfied customers
This really isn't so much a parenting question as it is a
Hi this really isn't so much a parenting question as it is a fashion one but my 11 year old daughter's nipples are starting to show though her shirt. For some reason she just doesn't want to wear a tr… read more
Cher
Cher
Teacher
Masters Degree
100 satisfied customers
I have a 3 year 9 month son and a daughter who just turned 6
I have a 3 year 9 month son and a daughter who just turned 6 in January and is in Grade KG. In late 2015, I separated from their father due to his inability to conquer his addiction with alcohol. As a… read more
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
180 satisfied customers
I work excessive hours, and my 5 yr old daughter, who has
I work excessive hours, and my 5 yr old daughter, who has favored my husband, has now started saying hurtful things to me. I own and operate my own business and am concurrently getting a phD, so I hav… read more
DrPsychologist
DrPsychologist
Post-Doctoral Degree
39 satisfied customers
What would recommend as s discipline besides standing in the
What would recommend as s discipline besides standing in the corner for my 5year old when he doesn't want to be a good listener… read more
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
180 satisfied customers
Some days I feel like I just want to run away from my kids I
Some days I feel like I just want to run away from my kids I have three small kids for three and two at the end of May my husband and I are constantly at each other's throats because we're irritated o… read more
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
180 satisfied customers
My 16 year old daughter (with her twin sister are the
My 16 year old daughter (with her twin sister are the younger siblings of 2 brothers) has no interest in school, what-so-ever. She is literally failing 3-4 subjects because he doesn't turn in any work… read more
Ashleigh
Ashleigh
Neurodevelopmental Psychologist
Master of Education in Educational Psychology
4 satisfied customers
I have a 1 year old and am pregnant with our 2nd little boy.
I have a 1 year old and am pregnant with our 2nd little boy. My 1 year old is a co sleeper any advice on how to Transition him into his crib… read more
TherapistJen
TherapistJen
LCSW, CPC
3,784 satisfied customers
Could you please provide recommendations on how to let a
Could you please provide recommendations on how to let a 12-year-old girl know that her father is living with another woman and her mother is (casually) dating a new man after a divorce?Background: He… read more
S. August Abbott
S. August Abbott
Etiquette consultant
Doctoral Degree
260 satisfied customers
My almost 12 year old stepdaughter has a serious lying
My almost 12 year old stepdaughter has a serious lying problem, from small lies to big lies. Examples, she can say her 7 year old sister gave her one of her perfumes because she didn't want it anymore… read more
Cher
Cher
Teacher
Masters Degree
100 satisfied customers
Child accidently got into liquid over the counter medicine a
Child accidently got into liquid over the counter medicine a 8 yr old and 1 yr old. Whats a home remedy. I've paid its been almost 30 mins… read more
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
180 satisfied customers
1-what you suggest me to do if a 5 years old kid has a car
Hi there,1-what you suggest me to do if a 5 years old kid has a car phobia I guess because he suffered and puked few times. Now it is really difficult to take him in the car.… read more
Cher
Cher
Teacher
Masters Degree
100 satisfied customers
My 7 yr old son is very impulsive and doesn't think before
My 7 yr old son is very impulsive and doesn't think before he acts. He will kick other kids at school he knows it's wrong but still does stuff like this. I have done just about everything for punishme… read more
Cher
Cher
Teacher
Masters Degree
100 satisfied customers
My 11 year old stepdaughter has a hard time learning math.
Hello. My 11 year old stepdaughter has a hard time learning math. For the same reason she's failing math with a D-. She has this fear on her face when I have her practice on her math, including mental… read more
Ashleigh
Ashleigh
Neurodevelopmental Psychologist
Master of Education in Educational Psychology
4 satisfied customers
This really isn't so much a parenting question as it is a
Hi, this really isn't so much a parenting question as it is a fashion one I guess, but how easily can a training bra be seen under one's clothes? My daughter's just started wearing one and doesn't wan… read more
Cher
Cher
Teacher
Masters Degree
100 satisfied customers
Just wondering how to hire a teenage babysitter for random
Just wondering how to hire a teenage babysitter for random times for my (2) daughters, mainly in the evening for a few hours. I can't seem to find anywhere that has a list.… read more
Cher
Cher
Teacher
Masters Degree
100 satisfied customers
My son is 42 years old. he has had multiple jobs, even had
my son is 42 years old. he has had multiple jobs, even had his own cleaning company for a few years, but too hard to be a small business person in the L.A. area. He has a hobby in the wrestling world … read more
Therapist Leslie
Therapist Leslie
Masters, Professional Psychology
5 satisfied customers
Disclaimer: Information in questions, answers, and other posts on this site ("Posts") comes from individual users, not JustAnswer; JustAnswer is not responsible for Posts. Posts are for general information, are not intended to substitute for informed professional advice (medical, legal, veterinary, financial, etc.), or to establish a professional-client relationship. The site and services are provided "as is" with no warranty or representations by JustAnswer regarding the qualifications of Experts. To see what credentials have been verified by a third-party service, please click on the "Verified" symbol in some Experts' profiles. JustAnswer is not intended or designed for EMERGENCY questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals.

Disclaimer: Information in questions, answers, and other posts on this site ("Posts") comes from individual users, not JustAnswer; JustAnswer is not responsible for Posts. Posts are for general information, are not intended to substitute for informed professional advice (medical, legal, veterinary, financial, etc.), or to establish a professional-client relationship. The site and services are provided "as is" with no warranty or representations by JustAnswer regarding the qualifications of Experts. To see what credentials have been verified by a third-party service, please click on the "Verified" symbol in some Experts' profiles. JustAnswer is not intended or designed for EMERGENCY questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals.

Show MoreShow Less

Ask Your Question

x