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First of all, I´ll tell you right now that you may not like what I am going to say, but I would be doing you a dis-service by pretending that I agreed with you completely.Of course showing a toddler attention is not wrong. However, much depends on how much attention and in what circumstances. Sometimes it can simply lead to the child thinking that what to most people is unacceptable behavior is in fact OK.It is epecially damaging when it goes against the child´s parents style of parenting.This may not be what you want to hear, I know. Nevertheless, you are the grandparent and not the parent, and for the child´s sake you must not undermine the parents, no matter whether you feel they are wrong or should change their ways. To do so, to tell them uninvited what they must do is going to cause real family trouble.Please, do NOT dismiss what I am saying - have a look at the following websites:http://powertochange.com/family/interfere/http://richmondmom.com/2012/01/02/are-you-an-interfering-grandparent-or-a-supportive-one/It´s clear just how much you love that little person, and I´m sure it must be very hard not to express your opinions on how she should be brought up, but for her sake, and to ensure that she has a happy and supportive grandmother to turn to, that is what you are going to have to think about, unless there is a real crisis.Best wishes to all of you,Norman.
I understand exactly what you are saying. I have been told that also and we are not the interfering type. Thank you for the confirmation.
I should also elaborate on my stepson's situation. He has always had issues showing emotion and I am sure that is part of it. He has problems with relationships. He has been on and off with he baby's mother. Literally this is now the 4th time they have gotten back together, since the baby has been born. So there are other issues.
I guess I hoped there may be a gentle way to let him know the baby wants more affection from him. Thank you again for your help. Leslie