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Thank you Bonnie for your response.
I should have noted that he was diagnosed with ADD (no H for him) and he has been receiving help at school. Since 9th grade he has been in a special study hall that helps with organization. This year, he was fully evaluated for special needs and they are minimal centered around organization. He is now in a study hall that mirco manages his daily work, breaks down large projects and checks his daily accomplishments. It does no good, he lies about work he has done just to get away without doing it. It comes across as hugely lazy and all he can say is that school is boring. That is why he doesn't do any work; he is bored. I don't think guidance at school and provide any reasonable help with his state of mind, they suggest seeking a therapist. We had him a therapist when he was 11-12 and he refused to go back as it was "a waste of time, all they did was play games."
I appreciate your affirmation to preserve parent-child relationships. I just don't know how to help him any more. He just couldn't care any less about his schooling.