professional_Alison : Hello there, may I help you? May I ask how old your son is please?
professional_Alison : Hello again, I see from another one of your questions that your son is six years old. He needs to have some clear boundaries set in place. He will quickly learn what is acceptable behaviour if you remain consistent in your treatment of him. Introduce a rewards chart with stickers for completing homework and for polite behaviour and following instructions. When he reaches 10 stars he can go to the shop and choose a magazine for example. When he gets to 20 he could have a trip swimming or bowling. Explain what you expect from him and also that if he chooses not to do homework or follow instructions there will be a loss of privelidges such as television or computer for the evening. Explain that once homework is done his time will be his own to do as he pleases. With regard to rudeness that has to be explained that you will not tolerate it and if he continues after a warning he is placed in time out for six minutes and made to apologise for his actions.
professional_Alison : I hope this helps to answe your question please let me know if I can help you further.
Customer: Is it ok if I keep sending him to his room for 6 mins if during the day he keeps being rude?
professional_Alison : No best not to use his room as a negative punishment, the bottom step of the stairs is best or a chair away from you and toys so he is removed from the situation and has time to reflect on his behaviour. Once the six minutes is up it is important to explain why you
professional_Alison : putyou put him on the step and then ask him for an apology. Then have a hug and move on from it.
Customer: I like the idea of the chart,should I give him a sticker at that exact time that he does something good?or I decide at the end of the day?
Customer: Regards XXXXX XXXXX should I do if when I put him away from me he keeps coming to me?
professional_Alison : Split the day into am and pm for stickers so it is an achievable goal. When he is in time out set a timer ad if he keeps getting up keep putting him back without talking to him or making eye contact until he stays there and completes his six minutes time out.
professional_Alison : Also when you give him stickers its important to praise his efforts and remind him why he got them. For example being polite or kind to his sibling.
professional_Alison : And completing homework without a fuss allow him to choose what he would like to do afterwards for free time.
professional_Alison : The importance here is lots of praise when he displays good behaviour.