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Good morning, I would like to assist you today.
I understand that you are concerned with both your son's ability to share and deal with other children emotionally. How long has he been behaving this way?
he has always been very emotional/intense but it has got worse in the past year.
I understand. And is this something that you have brought to the attention of his pediatrician (his emotions)?
no, where i live you must be referred to a pediatrician. he has a family doctor with whom i have not discussed this.
I think that it would be a good idea to mention this to the family doctor; and work to get a referral from a pediatrician who can look further into your son's emotional responses, to ensure their are no other health or psychological causes for his behavior.
Otherwise, especially if he is an only child, children his age very often have these issues with learning to share with others. And it can be very stressful on us as parents.
yes he is an only child
So he shares well with adults, but children is the problem?
not always with adults but is better. his reactions are very intense.
And outside of school, about how often is he around other children? As well as how often is he around other people (outside of his immediate family)?
school is every weekday, all day. he usually has swim lessons twice a week (no problem) and then he might see his cousins or we might go to a friend's house on the weekend.
It sounds like (from your description of what you have already tried) that you are on the right track with how to teach him to share. Continue to practice with him at home on sharing. Sit with him, playing with toys, and take turns playing with one toy, and then hand him your toy and ask for his. Keep talking with him about the importance of sharing, and continue preparing him in advance when he will be around others, explaining to him that he will have to share, and even encourage him doing so by offering a reward for sharing.
yes we have been doing those things and will continue.
Have a close friend or family member who also has a child his age to work with you when they can Practice bringing the two together in play; and you and your friend interact in the play as well.
Use this time to direct the sharing behavior. Work to implement games that involve sharing. Try to make sharing as fun and rewarding as possible for him.
yes will do
Here's a website that has some good ideas for toddler sharing games:http://www.clever-toddler-activities.com/sharing-games.html
Give some of these as try, and see if you have success.
No problem. Otherwise, continue to do what you have been doing, you're doing a great job (just keep at it). And get that pediatrician referral when you can. It never hurts to be safe when dealing with the health of your child; just to be sure.
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Thank you, XXXXX XXXXX wish you and your family all the best.
thank you for your help