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Hi. Welcome. I am a Licensed Master Social Worker with more than 20 years experience working with individuals and families. I am also a mom of Twins.
does your girlfriend have children?
Are you here with me?
she has 2 children. one is 21 and one is 15. her father hasnt communicated with her since she was 18. her mother committed suicide when she was 16, she divorced her husband when her son was 3. and he died shortly thereafter due to alcohol related issues. she has brought up her children by herself and it is completely understandable she doesnt want to do it again. i expressed to her that i expect no involement from her in bringing up my child and that we could consider every other weekend a break from each other. most of the problem lies with the deep rooted anger my girlfriend has towards my sons mother. she has not one ounce of respect for her as a mother!
Ok, I hear all that you are saying about her past and her lack of respect for your ex, but this is about respecting you, your relationship with your son and doing whatever she can to cultivate that.
I don't hear much of that from her and that troubles me. I hear you, a loving father wanting to do right by your son and love him and I would not change one thing about your time with him.
apparently i dont see that happening. she seems to be a control freak. i have stopped responding to her about a week ago and she will not stop texting me. i am looking to spend as much time as i possibly can as i love him more than life itself.
exactly. i am with you on this one....her damage from her past is not yours so keep doing as you are.
As a mom herself I am truly bothered that she cannot support what you are doing.
your son is lucky to have you and dont let anyone try and come between that relationship.
You are a great Dad!!!!
i regards XXXXX XXXXX son, do you have any suggestions on fun things to do in and around the house? i dont want to play wii all the time, and would like to challenge hime. he is so handsome i am worried about someone snatching him up so i started teaching him mixed martial arts, only to be used with daddy or if someone tries to hurt or take him away. of course i taught him to scream for help at the top of his lungs first. but the mma only lasts so long. what do i do with the other 23 or so hours
sure. well you can get out of the house more...play some sports outdoors, indoor playgrounds, outdoor play grounds, fishing. Reading, doing art projects like painting.
house projects with Dad..diging in the dirt, planting flowers, painting a wall.
the important thins is that you are together and you are not willing to give him up for anyone. i commend you for that.
going to stores, movies, kid themed restaurants....but again I am sure he is just happy to be with you and spend good time. so get creative and have FUN
let this girlfriend find someone who doesnt have children so it can all be focused on her. Stay true to your desires here.
i knew the answer all along. i guess i just needed confirmation from somoene like yourself . my heart has been ripped apart for the last 2 and a half years. complete inner turmoil, like someone had taken my soul. my dilemma now is finding the right person who will accept my son, as i am 44 and want to settle down with someone. dont agree with dating services, dont like blind dates, and dont want to do computer dating. just want a soul mate!
You are lovely and I promise you that the right woman will come along who will love you even more for how devoted you are to your son. this one is not it and I am sorry she has given you such inner turmoil.
my two cents...nothing wrong with dating sites or blind dates...the more you open yourself up to all possibilities the more you will be able to achieve what you desire.
had a blind date 3 weeks ago and it was a nightmare! couldnt get out of it and didnt want to hurt her feelings! i also wonder what calliber of people they are if they are resorting to a website to get a date!
thats funny and you are not alone. Everyone can fill a notebook with blind date horror stories. Believe it or not good caliber people....the internet has made it possible for people to meet in new and different ways. do you think a good caliber is hanging out in a bar looking for love?
so all i am saying is be open to it...some dates will be bad but you might just find that pearl.
funny you say that i ran into my x/ sons mother, in a barroom and look where she is now! on the other side. there are no keepers in the bar room. thank god i am sober now. i did get a beautiful son though. i have to say before i leave that, prior to finding this site, i spent about 5 min. a week on the computer. now i am spending 5 hrs a day. it is an invaluable resource and i love it! you have given me life altering advice in a good way! i am extremely happy with your sevice and i hope i am lucky enough to chat with you again if i have any questions. TTYL
You are so very kind and i thank you. Good work with your sobriety..keep it up. you can request me anytime. Please take a moment to click on the rating tab to rate my work.
can you do that for me now? you will have a copy of our time together once you complete the rating.
Did I lose you?
there is not a high enough rating below. what is above excellent! whoever your twins father is , im sure knows he is the luckiest man on the face of the earth. god bless you!
you are so very kind. I appreciate that so very much.
God bless you as well.