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thank you for your continued dialogue with me. your last response with book suggestion is helpful. will look into that today.
I have discussed the opition of speaking with someone to her, but she rejects and changes the subject non chalantley.
so no she is not in therepy as of yet. do you have any suggestion on how to bring up this topic with her? any conversation starters??
Today she was reading me school work and what s wrote and said caught me off guard. the assigment is to fill in the blank of I AM....I GetM
Ect. she wrote 1. i sometimes feel left out 2. worry my pants will fall down in class, 3. cry when am embarassed. I casually asked her when was the last time she felt embarassed. Her example she gave to explain had t d wth if someone aked her to pull her pants down..I aked if that ever happened she said no it was just an example. tld trust her and believe i want her to feel comfortable o tell me anything. What else should say or do???
Hi Cindy,She is really beginning to do a great job of opening up. When she tells you what she has I would support her as you have and let her know that all of what she is feeling is quite normal and although she may feel like she is the only one feeling scared, embarrassed or filled with worry, that she can rest assured that many of the other girls are feeling the same things inside and they may not show it either. Sometimes this simple statement of letting her know that she is not alone could be helpful. Encourage her to keep talking to you so you can share some experiences with her too. As an example..."when I was a young girl, I felt left out on the playground. I felt sad inside, but I walked over to another girl who was on her own and asked her to play together. It felt scary to do that, but I was so glad, I did."In terms of having her speak to someone, keep encouraging her to talk to you and let her know that if she desires to talk to someone you would bring her. Then you might find someone who uses play therapy so it won't feel so scary for her.I want you to also know that what she is going through is quite normal. Young adolescence can be a tough time for all girls, and I am betting that each girl in the class feels as your daughter does. You can also let her know that when these girls are being mean it is their way, however wrong, to express their own fears. Encourage her to stay strong, know she is loved and find other girls who are kind.Hope these additional thoughts are helpful. Keep being the great Mom you are and continue to encourage her to speak to you.