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Wow, it sounds like you have been very much there for these kids. For one, you are right in taking her to counseling. Maybe this reveals my ignorance, but I am not sure what headspace is? On thing I often tell parents (and it sounds to me you are basically the parent here) is if what you are trying is not working then try the opposite. I know that sounds cliche, but it seriously works. If you have been to trying hard and strict with her, maybe let up a little.
One other thing I would recommend is what i often suggest, find a way To give her a weekly set time of uninterrupted, unconditional, positive regard. I am not sure how you make this happen, but it is very important. This is a time in which your focus is totally on her and completely positive. You try not To talk about her behavior. You Simply enjoy time with a child you love. I know this sounds kind of hocus pocus but it works. . Consistency In her life could be helpful as well. She needs to know what e h day and each hour holds. Finally if you could get her mom To attend some flu selling with her it could do wonders. No of fence, but I put the blame for this squarely on the shoulders of mom. If she could own up to her. Is takes and co e clean, she might literally save her child from a life of hell.
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