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Hello. I would like to assist you with your concern today.
I definitely sounds as though you have a lot going on in your life right now. Even with these difficult challenges, it sounds as though you are very positive and upbeat, and can take all of this in stride; and I do greatly commend you.
I would also like to state that my opinion is from the stance of a parent, and not a medical professional, which is not who I think you were looking to confide in about this query anyway.
I do not think that one could judge whether right or wrong to have a baby now with your daughter having cancer and everything else that is going on. I truly do think that is a matter of the individual and those around him or her. If you feel that you yourself are strong enough to handle your daughter's health, taking care of your 2 (soon to be 3) year old, and a new baby, that is definitely your choice and decision. What must also be considered is the feelings of your spouse, your daughter, and little brother. I am sure that your daughter would be thrilled to have a new baby in the family; and this may be good for her, however I would be concerned about the time that would be taken away from her and the care that she needs (as well as your 2 1/2 year old) in taking on the responsibility of a new baby.
Another concern that I would have is in your own health, and that of the anticipated child. Having lost 4 pregnancies, and being high-risk, can be seen as somewhat of a dangerous position to put yourself and an unborn child in, especially considering all that is going on in your life, that is more mental stress that can add to the physical high risks already involved. Knowing that you are not much bothered with being high risk does show strength within your own character. I do think that it would be important to consider the stress that a woman's body goes through in loosing a pregnancy, and how this high risk can potentially affect the health of the unborn child. I gave birth two twins last March, and that was an automatic high risk, and my first high risk pregnancy of three, however I avoided being cut open early, and gave birth to two beautiful baby girls at home, only 3 days before their actual due date, and I was 32 then, so it is definitely possible to defeat the risks.
However, I honestly must say, that considering the previous losses, and especially your daughter's health, you may really want to think about what is best right now, which is raising the two wonderful children that you have been blessed to bring into the world.
i just got your answers now i am still reading then
no problem, take your time.
my thinking is : since my daugther had cancer so young she will only be out of the woods when she turns 10 yrs . Then i am scared of " tomorrow", "IF, IF"...but at the same time life goes on. When my daugther was diagnosed, i told my husband if we lost her i would be gone too, thats how big and strong connection i have with her.......she is my everything. I know we shoudlnt plan a pregnancy regarding on an opinion of a 5 yrs old..........at the same time nobody knows what the future holds. Like my sister said that she can receive a bad phone call since my nice just started driving............
I would love to have another baby, physically i know i am not ready, i feel like i aged 30 yrs!! Mentally and emotionally we are getting there. Like i said, cancer change your life forever. My husband is willing to try for a new baby, when I asked my daugther today if she would want to share another sibling she was sooo excited, she already wanted go and buy baby things!
Yes, cancer does change lives forever; it took my father's life when I was 8, so I can definitely relate.
I, again commend your strength. Many women wouldn't even consider trying to conceive after losing a child; and understandably so; that must be a painful experience. Then again, I do understand the feeling of wanting to try try again, until you get it right, and that is respected as well.
i guess the botXXXXX XXXXXne is that i think I would feel "guilt". Pregnancy after your battled cancer.
pregnancy after your kid battled cancer
And that I can understand. As well, my concern, would be for your daughter, as well as all of you who are in existence at the moment. As long as everyone has their needs attended to as is necessary, and no one will miss out, or be put in a physically or emotionally dangerous position; it sounds like you have the support of your whole family to give motherhood another try. As a High Risk registered nurse, I am sure that you have a wealth of health information at your fingertips, and know all the right physicians to see for your high risk pregnancy.