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hello, have you any suggestions in regard to my daughter's issue?
Have you tried to encourage your daughter to use the potty by giving her rewards for going to the potty as opposed to punishment for not doing it?
she hasn't used a potty for nearly a year now, this is regression
So she once was using the potty?
she uses the toilet and wipes her own bottom
Have you discussed this issue with her pediatrician to ensure that there are no physical or serious psychological problems that may be causing this regression?
The reason that I ask, is because sometimes parents will think that a child is just being difficult, when really the problem is deeper. Here is a link for example, that explains a possible concern, Encopresis (also called soiling), which happens generally to children 4 or older:http://kidshealth.org/parent/general/sick/encopresis.html?tracking=P_RelatedArticle#
i'd also taken into account that we have recently moved into a new house with my partner, just returned from a two week trip to france and the arrival of a new half sister on her dad's side may well have contributed to it. I've been mindful to be reassuring about the changes, she has a lovely bedroom etc. she doesn't seem to care and lets any reprimand go over her head
thanks for that link btw
Yes, I agree that changes like that can as well cause these kinds of responses in children. I first recommend, that if you haven't already. you speak to her pediatrician about the soiling, so that you can assure that you are covering all basis.
Try not to punish your daughter, because this may make her feel bad about herself; especially if it is a problem that she can't control (or needs to learn to control).
Talk to your daughter as well. Ask her if there is any reason that she does not use the potty. She may not tell you anything that makes sense, or she may just give you the answer that you were looking for.
is there anything i can do differently?
It could be as simple as the kind of toilet seat you have; or maybe in some way she has become afraid of the toilet, or the water. Either way, talking to your daughter and asking, and most importantly taking it to her pediatrician would be the best ways to find out why she is doing it; and thus answer exactly what you need to do to solve the problem
Knowing that she was doing it fine before tells you a lot; so whatever you did to get her to use the potty before worked
So now, you must figure out exactly what has made her stop