Thanks very good info.
My sister arthritis is real, she's been already seen by Doctor.
But I believe it is a real physical manifestation of her mind and such.
Before that, she had a problem with silicon implanted in her legs,
Before that she was hospitalized for not drinking enough water.
Before that it was something else...
Now she finally has something real and permanent. (poor little me disorder)
She's like my Mother, they are like clones of each other.
I don't have any issues with my sister.
Like my Mom, she only calls me when she needs a favor or when she wants to be heard. However, listening to me is not part of the deal.
They hate my opinions and points of view.
My Mom doesn't respect me.
My sister is confrontational with me. She'd find some joy if I was wrong in something. The problem is that I'm rarely wrong. This is true and I'm not being egocentric.
She's two years older but we were classmates.
I was a top of the class student, now I'm the only one in my family with a college education. (I know my spelling doesn't reflect that) I studied computer information systems.
So when I tell something to my sister about anything or anyone, she tries to sound as if she knows about it as well. She also tries to disagree with what I say.
I feel really sorry for her. It seems I was better able to deal with the abuse we suffered.
She had a kid with a guy she didn't love, I guess due to her biological clock and the "what people would say" problem if she didn't have a kid.
She was with that guy for about a decade. Now she's living with a millionaire in another country.
Now I'm wrong if I say something different than what her boyfriend says.
And even now that she's taken care of, she comes up with artritis.
In my opinion, the arthritis has to be cause by her issues.
1. She's not married.
2. My family in that country she's now living in, expect her to do something work related. (Before the arthritis was found)
3. She probably knows unconsciously she's doing the same thing my Mom did. (She is doing that).
4. She probably feels she doesn't deserve her new life style (Low self steem)
5. She probably feels some people over there are jelous of her. (That's true though)
6. Her issues didn't go away in this perfect like setup.
And that's where something was going to come from or manifest itself.
In this case I think it was the arthritis. And if it wasn't that, it would have been something else.
She suffers from anxiety, and other than that her personality is a lot like my sister's.
I've told her to go see a therapist for many years now. She still doesn't hasn't done it.
She goes to the emergency sometimes a few times per Month. But they never find anything wrong with her. Still she doesn't do what I tell her.
She came to visit me last December; we spent about 12 hours in the ER. in two different occasions. She still won't go to therapy.
She prefers to live in denial...