professional_Alison : Hello there, may I help you? I would knock on the door and see if she is in there.
professional_Alison : Your son has not asked you permission and although he is old enough to have sexual intercourse, it is something that should have been agreed by you first.
professional_Alison : How old is the girlfriend too and does her mother know where she is?
professional_Alison : If your husband is not home you have to wonder too if they planned this sleep over. You need to be strict here as they are not respecting you by going behind your back.
Thank you for taking my question. I took several pictures of the bike, but I am not sure if I want to confront them. I don't think the girl's parents know about this sleep over.
professional_Alison : I think you have every right to ask, this is your home and they should not be doing this behind your back. You can do it in a calm manner if you find her there say you are disappointed and will talk about it in the morning.
professional_Alison : You also need to know where the girls mother thinks she is.
So if she is there, should I let them fall back to sleep in the same room? What should we talk about in the morning?
Also, should I inform her mom?
professional_Alison : I believe you should give her the opportunity to tell her but ask her mum to phone you and confirm if she is happy with her staying over.
I also have another question about your comment on sexual intercourse. 'Your son has not asked you permission and although he is old enough to have sexual intercourse, it is something that should have been agreed by you first.' How so?
professional_Alison : If they want to be treated like adults they have to behave as such by talking to you and not sneaking around. The arrangement has to be agreed by you and both sets of parents. Being dishonest and disrespectful is what you need to discuss and explain is unacceptable.
professional_Alison : Not the fact of him seeking permission to sleep with his girlfriend but permission to allow her to stay over.
I see what your point now. The problem is they could have asked for a sleep over instead of sneakily arrange this by themselves. So in your opinion, I should let her parents know this in the morning, right?
professional_Alison : Both sets of parents need to be in agreement with this.
professional_Alison : Yes I think you have an obligation to.
professional_Alison : I have to go but will reply later.
Got it. Thank you for your advise. I will do that. Will keep you posted with what happens. Thank you.