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Hi. the screen said to go forward. I take it you have read the question I posed?
This young man is totally out of control and somone has to do something as he behaviour is completely unacceptable and unfair on the people he lives with. You need to put the ball in his court and give his some choices. I.e to live in a house happily with grandparents etc there needs to be some control and respect otherwise he will have to look for somewhere else to live..his choice. It may be best to write this in a letter that way he cant become confrontational and will have time to think about what you have written.
This young man needs a firm hand and to realise that in order to be treated as an adult he has to acti like one.
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I agree that it is unfair, but it has to be worked on, too. These ultimatums have already been delivered. My dad was given the option to send him to some sort of juvenile facility, but he chose not to. The boy is really smart, generally a good kid, but this is lurking underneath him and it is ugly. I don't think a justice system would be any better with him. I grew up in this house too, and I quietly felt exactly the way he expresses. Of course, I had the good sense to be civil. Is there any way you can think of to redirect and correct this behavior?
does he do any classes to re direct his anger, sports etc? This could help
he does go to the gym
your other direction is to explain to him that you under stand how he is feeling and often felt the same, let him know you are there for him to talk whenever he needs you
that is to be encouraged then.
would he be happier if he moved out, does he want to is that the reason for his anger?
does he work or study?
he is in high school, but has no job
At the end of the day you can only help somone that wants to be helped would he benfit from a part time job and independance perhaps
I think I just wanted to check to see if I was way out there, get an outside opinion. It sounds like you would go further than I would in this situation from the get go, but I am going to keep moving forward on this and see where it goes.
you sound to me like you are doing everything possible to support this troubled young man. Keep trying dont give up. good luck!
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