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Although your daughter is legally old enough to smoke, as you said she is still at school and the school does not allow it. You need to be careful how you handle this otherwise she is likely to go behind your back and continue smoking.
Yes this is my worry - so I want to get it as right as possible.
You need to put the ball in her court and make it her decision to stop smoking, explain that it is up to her if she wishes to smoke but point how the cost, money she could be using to buy clothes, go out with friend etc.
Then gently mention the dangers of the smoking and that her uncle dies of smoking. Also the fact of getting into trouble at school for smoking is not good.
You cant force her to stop as legally she is allowed to but you can make her aware that you are and are not happy that she does. If you give her money also make her aware that is she continued to choose to smoke you will not fund this habit and give her extra money for outing etc if you know she is smoking
The direction to take is to treat her and talk to her as an adult and make her feel that you are not telling her what to do but merely advising her and the final decision is down to her.
She is more likely to make the correct decision if she reaches the conclusion herself rather than you trying to force her.
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