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If your child has decided she doesnt want to be cuddles before bed, that fine, imake the bedtime routine calm and relaxed, i.e quiet play, relaxing bath, perhaps a story, warm milk before placing her in her cot, try stoking her head and saying sleepy time now, give her a kis and place her in her cot. Even if she is standing or sitting it and it takes a while to go to sleep as long as she is not distressed then leave her, children go through different stages of sleep routines as they get older. If you think the time is appropriate dont change it. Stick with the routine, at 13 months she will learn to get herself off to sleep, make sure she is not too hot or cold, and the room is quite dark.
also if she has a sleep during the day consider cutting it down slightly. That ways she will be more tired when its night.
Also if she has a comforter make sure she has that, i.e a blanket or a soft toy.
She usually sleeps 1-2 hours during the day, shall I stop it?because she is fighting it too and when finally goes to sleep its late in the afternoon like 3 pm to 5 pm and it prevents her to sleep soon at night
Perhaps cut it down to 1 hour she is quite young to cut out a day sleep all together.
can you try putting her down a little earlier in the day?
yes she is sleeping too late in the day that will make it harder to get her off at night.
ok, I cut it down , thanks ....and it doesn't matter for my bonding with her shei is refusing being cuddled?
no try and have a little cuddle and story before bed and cuddles when she first wakes and is sleepy. It wont affect your bond, she will always come to you for cuddles.
because she fights it during the day too! we start putting her to bed at 1 pm but she doest go until 3pm!
then give her an hour max to go to sleep and if she doesnt go then get her up. It may be better for her to go without a sleep if she doesnt go within that time and thenat night she will be tired.
the last question......Does she need to be trianed to have dicipline for sleep at this age or is it still soon and sh e would'nt understand?
if you keep going in to her or get her up when she doesnt go to sleep she will so learn you are at her becon call
give her reasonable time to go to sleep 1 hour max
as long as she is not crying leave her
well she cries as soon as I leave the room
at night she will learn to selve sooth and eventually learn that at bedtime you wont keep coming to her and go off to sleep
leave her to cry, time it, and if it goes on for longer than 15-20 mins go in and talk quietly saying its bedtime now
during the night its ok.....but putting her to sleep first sleep is the major problem
do the same again, another 20 mins then go in and dont talk, just stroke her head, dont get her out, leave it 20 mins each time
I think maybe leave her an hour max and getting her up in the day may be the answer
but I have heard its not good for them to cry it out to sleep
would'nt it affect her psychologically?
its a normal part of sleep training
I knw its hard but its the best way for her to learn
it will quickly stop
hang in there!!
I hope I have helped you
she gets to sleep comfortably with my mom during the days but she has time and let her play with her to sleep for 2 hours !!
Yes you difinately did:)
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Thanks alot for your time
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