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Hi Good morning.
Many things can interrupt the wonderful pattern of a young baby. My hunch is that he is teething which often disrupts the sleep cycle.
what things are oyu doing to get him back to sleep?
The easiest, nursing.
there is a reward right there
Sometimes we just let him cry it out & let him go back to sleep on his own.
if you gave me a chocolate chip cookie each time I woke up, my guess is I would wake up so I can have a cookie
nothing better than the warm comfort of mommy
Well I definitely hate that routine cause I want sleep! lol. Should we keep just letting him cry it out? Or do you have any other suggestions?
and trust be i know that it is so tiring and the nursing helps all involved but the goal is to let him do it on his own with some hlp
of course I do...
I was swaddling him, which helped at first. But now he's wanting to sleep on his side & wiggle. So even if I swaddle him he wiggles out of it.
when you say cry it out, let me know on greater detail how you are doing that
Shove my head under a pillow & pretend its not happening. lol.
You are so funny!
He isn't screaming or anything, it's more laying there talking & wining.
yes because he knows that if he does that the warm milk is on its way
This morning, it started at 3 am & lasted till about 4:15....
ok so when he whines and moans and you leave him does he fall back?
Eventually. It just seems like he takes forever.
And then in the morning is super raunchy because he didn't sleep.
yes and it does because you are lying there hoping and praying he gets quiet
the good thing is that he has shown you that he can get back to sleep
I think he may be waking during teething and then got the reinforcement from you
Not going to deny it. lol.
so how do you think he would do if you went to him for 5 seconds....dont pick him up but pat, not rub his back and repeat the mantra mommy is here. its time to sleep
because he thinks nursing is coming?!
I've done that. Went over, told him it's ok, offered the binky, etc. And when I walk away he screams bloody murder.
given that, I would have to say that letting him be there and fall back on his own as you have been doing is the way to go...the time it takes will get shorter after some hellish nights for you and him for sure
are you putting anything on his gums before bed?
is he showing signs of teethin/
sorry for my typos
I've tried giving him a lil motrin, but he doesn't like anything else. Orajel doesn't seem to have any affect either.
brain works much faster
I know the feeling. lol.
He just got his first tooth a few weeks ago.
there are some holistic tablets that go under the tongue
I suspect he has another coming, but I don't feel the bump yet
well mommy you have hit it on the head...first tooth a few weeks ago, less sleeping a few weeks ago
yeah and you might not the pain for him is always before it breaks.
I used teething tablets for my daughter when she was teething. But I can't find them in stores around here.
once we think our baby is in a good pattern...boom something throws it off.
Luckily with my daughter she didn't get her first tooth till she was 16 months. Popcicles were her miracle workers. LOL
can you deal with some hellish nights for a bit...no nursing and letting him know its not fun to wak up in the night because nothing good happens.
right now he knows the chocolate chip cookie is coming so he is whining for it
I'm sure I could find some online, but haven't looked.
that could help at least a little
Yeah. I have done that before. His daddy hates doing it. Feels awful.
does he freak if you husband goes to him to pat his back?
But he's not the one that is nursing either.
Hmm... Haven't tried that.
We'll give that a shot tonight. :D
Might work if daddy lets him know it's ok.
here is why I say that. If his attachment is strong with you which is great and he knows daddy is coming in with a calm flat tone of reassurance then maybe he settles
it may take a few trips down the hall for several hours and a few nights so Daddy will be tired, but it could work
Definitely worth a shot. :)
it will get abit worse before it gets better because your son will be making an adjustment and he will protest for sure
dont devaite from the plan, the tone, picking him up, etc
daddy may not like it...sorry dad
does he have your scent in his crib in anyway?
As long as mommy gets sleep... lol
now you are catching on
mommy deserves it
does he sleep with anything in the crib yet?
I have a music thingy on the side that has a waterfall.
Not sure exactly what it's called.
But it plays music & cricket sounds and stuff.
its called a thingy :-)
when is he allowed to have a little lovey? I forget my twins are 3.
ask your pediatrician when they say it is okay for the lovey and then get him a small little square blanket and you sleep with it for a few days and then place it with him assuming your doc says its ok. Get tow of them so one can always be in your bed with your scent and then you can alternate if need be
lol. I'm not sure. I let my daughter start having a stuffed animal about 1 yr. And it was for music.
I'll try that.
We have an appt today, so I'll ask.
maybe send an email or call to see when they recommend it. Because if you get through these next few nights and let him fall back on his own and then soon you can use a lovey with your smell on it life will be good
I'm sure my scent would help comfort him when he wakes up.
yes it would.
but dont do it until your Doc says it is okay.
Because we never want anything to end up over his face.
as you know having an older child
how old is your daughter?
3 yr old
you are EXHAUSTED!
Big time. lol.
My work shift also starts at 5:50 am, so I get very little sleep even when they sleep through the night. So it really hurts with him not.
well he has shown you he can go back on his own without screaming...that is huge, so we just need a few tough nights and the time of his staying awake should decrease as along as there is consistency and not giving in the the tempation
oh my...that is unbelievable. Kudos to you.
lol, I owe it all to coffee. ;)
even more push to have you get this on the right track asap
whatever works, right?
Yeah. Honestly I wouldn't mind so much if I didn't need the sleep so badly.
nah you would mind...it hurts no matter what
But when this routine started, i noticed milk production decreasing because of lack of sleep.
ok so tell me the plan....
Bury my head & let him settle himself back to sleep. We'll try seeing if dad can comfort him to settle. Teething tablets, and ask about the lovey at the dr's today.
see you are not too tired if you remembered all of that... :-) what are you complaining about? LOL
if you think dad even needs to go in...you can always just have a few nights of nithing and try that and see if that works
I might say try that first since you havve been doing it
put a pillow over dad's ears if he feels bad
He's a softy.
a few nights of him going down the hall he wont feel so bad
but try nothing first because you have said that he can do it, it just takes a long time.
so try to wait that out before we send softy in
Can I ask you one other question about my son while I have you? It should be fairly quick.
So we introduced solids a few weeks ago (I know, timing lol). And since doing so, he's loosing interest in nursing (besides during the night). Sadly I can't get him to drink hardly anything. :(
I'm wondering if that means now is a good time to think about weaning him... And if I did, would I need to start up formula.
yes and so now when you give it to him at night he is like ahhh thank god Ive been waiting for this rather than those yucky bananas.
He is doing the weaning naturally and showing you he might be ready. Talk to Doc about that one today.
K. That's part of the plan.
you have it all together Mommy!
You are doing great...a little tired but totally on the ball
I'm sad he is loosing interest in me. :( I nursed my daughter till she was 14 months. But she also didn't have teeth. lol.
yes and that is probably more of what it is about why you are willing to do this at night too.
sad when those emotions come up for sure
I admit it. I'm guilty. Let's face it, it's nice being able to offer something no one else can.
absolutely you are a loving mom
And here I heard boys were a lot harder to wean. lol
he will still be your little love always no matter what
:) Thank you so much for the help. I really appreciate your input.
It's nice hearing I'm on the right track.
It has been my pleasure. You truly are doing great and I appreciate your feedback too.
Keep that loving heart.