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You are right in that your son will not know what correspondence means. He has grown to know your partner as his dad, and if the biological father wants to make contact with your/his son, then he should make physical contact with him. At this age, your son will not understand who he is entirely, since he has not been in his life. However, attempts to make contact with your son should be welcomed, as it seems you are very open to that idea. I think you are right in that your son will learn that this is the norm (biological dad) and your partner and will come to accept this into his life as he grows and develops and matures. It will not be fair to your son in the future for him to have to decide whether or not he wants his father in his life. If the father wants to be in his life, he should make the first move, have it be positive, and continue to visit and interact regularly with his son.
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Sorry, just to check. I was planning on proceeding with introducing my son's father by his name, rather than introduce him as his father right away, at least until he proves that he is committed to being in his sons life. What do you think?
I think that could be a good idea. You do want to make sure that his father is committed relationship. You also don't want to introduce him as his father right away, have them bond, and then have his father walk out of his life again. Hopefully that will not happen and he will really stay committed to making the relationship work. You and him will also have to work together on a parenting plan that will be in the best interest of your son.
I'm sorry, I meant to say committed TO the relationsip
Great thank you.