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Can you tell me what country this is happening in?
It sounds as though the woman made some good decisions for herself and her children.
Why doesn't the husband work?
the husband actually said he could not work for anyone but would rather do business and was into business for about two years befor it crashed and ever since then, this woman had been there for him in terms of finances becausee she has a good job. she has even gone to the extent of borrowing money from cooperatives in her place of work for him which he mismanaged
Does she want to stay with her husband or is she ready for divorce?
Well, as it is now, the man had done a lot of horrible things to her siblings such as locking her only brother up for kidnapping; that was the case with the Police and he had been proven wrong since they all now know that the boys were not kidnapped. and now he has resorted to a juvenile court and the magistrate now wants the children brought to the court. the guy seems not to be thinking rationally any longer as he is not even thinking of the welfare of these children and how this might affect them psychologically. The woman might not be able to live with this man again; but not so sure
The police has shown they have the good sense to know that the boys are better off where they are. I would trust that the juvenile court can so the same.
Whether she divorces her husband or lives apart from him, she will need legal protection or he will probably harass over and over again.
But Nigeria is a male chauvinistic country where the court might declare that the man the next in line to keep the children if the mother is not around.
Yes, i agree with you but how does she go about getting this legal protection?
Is there such a thing as a legal separation in Nigeria?
I am not sure
It would be good to find that out. If so it would provide a legal framework for their separation rather than him being able to call her a runaway wife.
As to the male dominance of Nigeria, wouldn't the court expect that a man work to support his family rather than making his wife do everything?
But she did not run away. She has no intention of staying abroad; thhat was why she opted for the online distance learning programme rather than settle down to a full time course and she lost all available funding and sponsorship because there is no funding for online learners, mostly for those on full time.
And can you please explain what you mean by legal separation? is it the same as divorce?
Her brother didn't kidnap the boys either but that didn't stop him from accusing the brother in law and causing trouble.
A legal separation isn't divorce. The couple are still married but the court recognized they are living apart.
It would stop him from having the right to come into her house without her permission. It would set up custody of the children and visiting rights. If he made any money he would have to pay to support the children.
I actually think the magistrate was not right in asking the children to be brought at the first hearing
Perhaps it wasn't right but I'm sure he wanted to see for himself how the children were being taken care of and that no one had runaway with them.
Thank you, XXXXX XXXXX such case, what would you advice the sister who has the custody of the children to do?
Follow the magistrates directions, let the court know that the children are in school that the mother paid for. The mother will be back in a specific number of months and will take care of the children. The husband doesn't have money to take care of his children because he refuses to work and has ruined every business he has tried. He wouldn't be able to put them in school or buy them clothes.
and you think this will be sufficient? what if the man has gone behind to 'see' the magistrate as is the norms over here?
Unless he has money to get the magistrate to rule in his favor, which it doesn't seem he has, I'm not sure the court would be impressed by him.
You sure have a point there. Well i guess i still have a whole month to the £11 pounds paid now. is it possible to get you back so as to give you a feed back and get more professional advice from your goodself?
Just put my name at the start of your question, Kansastherapist.
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My name is XXXXX XXXXX Nigeria. Yes you did help. But i need to know if the £11 pound covers a month as they wrote.
Yes, you will still be able to ask questions for the 11 pounds.
Okay Madam, thank you and talk to you soon!
You're very welcome.