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Our Son is 17 and has just finished high school - he is feeling

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Our Son is 17 and has just finished high school - he is feeling pretty good about himself, actually he thinks he knows everything about life, Our issue is if we ask him to do something simple, or more recenlty not to do something, he assesses our request in a split second and decides whether it is 'necessary' or not to comply with our request.
He will simply say something like, "no, its not necesssary", and all types of explaining to him that it is, doesnt seem to get through. He doesn't see our values, he is only absorbed with his own.

How do we make him understand that some things we ask are important to us and we want him to simply do as we ask. as mentioned I'm talking about simple things and not ones that require any excertion on his part.
Well, he is still a minor and still under your roof which means your rules. Forget the explaining and set the boundary...almost go back to when he was a two year old. He will comply with what you request/ask/desire or else a privilege will be lost. Does he have a car? Take the keys? Does he have in ipad, etc? Take it from him when he doesn't comply and let him know that when he doesn't comply privileges will be lost. No wiggle room..let him know what you are asking and what will happen if he does not comply.
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