How would i stop the cycle though?
because as soon as she gets angry, I get defensive cry and say it how it is,
and she gets defensive and shouts, for instance last time I said that if I spoke to you the way my sister does, I would get in SO much trouble. I said she was horrible to me, hit me as a kid, shouts and insults me a lot, (inbetween shouting "why can't you see I love you and I am trying my best?!"
I said I can't forgive you for being so horrible to me in the past and she said "pull the car over so I can slap her" If I ignore it and try get on with her, she eventually annoys me and we argue, or if I try talk to her about it, we argue, we have had this arguement so many times, the only way she lets us get back to normal is if I apologise to her.
Now I am ignoring her and she is saying this is causing permanent damage and I am breaking up the family. But I am sick of getting treated like this. I really dont know how to end the cycle.