My 27 year old son is very rude to me. He's opinionated and puts down anything I do, choose to do, etc. I was a great mom to him and he knows it. I divorced his dad when he was 14 because he had a terrible temper. My son was happy when I did. His dad was in his life until he was 18. His dad met a gal online, got married and flew the coop from the time my son was 18 - 22. Now the dad is divorced again and has started calling my son like nothing every was wrong. We're all stunned at his behavior.
My son has a girlfriend and they're crazy about each other. They both live together in the next town, 25 min. away. My son is always debating me, doesn't like any of my friends who are all wonderful and respectable people. He tells me that everyone is using me. He's been badly used in the past by friends, so maybe it's displaced anger?
My friend washed my car the other day to stay busy since he's only working 3 days a week. I offered to pay him and he wouldn't accept a dime and kept walking away from me as I was chasing him around with a 100 dollar bill. Ha!
Anyway, my son says that since he's only working 3 days a week that he's using me to subsidize his income. I said; What? He's not getting any money for this. My son said: "Yeah sure." (Burns me up)
My son said: What does he do for a living? I said he's an engineer for Toshiba. My son then said: "OH HE'S EDUCATED...that's even worse...you have an educated friend washing your car for extra money????"
It's crazy, how do I convince him that no money is inolved.
My son blasted me because I didn't include him on picking a ski boat for myself.
I would have, but was afraid he'd be his old judgemental self and it would spoil my fun.
He puts my boat down now all of the time saying it looks like a big yellow banana, etc.
I bought a new car and that was the wrong color. He literally started hollaring at me when I told him I got champagne color, not black. He said: "You didn't get black???" OMG!!!!"
Yesterday we were all going to his graduation from electrical school. I told him I was proud of him and he told me to knock it off. He said he's sick and tired of hearing me say how well he's done and how proud I am. It crushed my heart. He seems to want to hurt me always. Two years ago I took him and my cousin to Europe for two weeks.
His girlfriend had just broken up with him and he was MISERABLE, especially knowing that she was originally going to go with us, but found a new guy.
We got to the airport and he started yelling at me when I got into the check in line.
He said: What??? We're not going first class? I said: No, why? He said: "You're kidding me right?" I said: "No." He came unglued saying that he refused to fly for 14 hrs. in coach. We ended up having a miserable trip. He yelled at me if I asked for directions, saying that he knew what to do, etc. he kept telling me to stop asking directions if we were in train stations, etc. I speak German and worked hard at learning the language.
This was my first time having my son see me speak it. I was proud of myself and couldn't wait to do so in front of him. We were in Munich and I asked a Taxi driver what time the Glockenspeil played (electric bells that play on the hour). My son said: Speak English Mom, stop showing off! That crushed me.
Anyway, you get the idea. He's rude to me and sweet as pie to his girlfriend, my dad, friends we know, etc.
He gets mad if I give him any kind of compliment too. If his girlfriend doesn't like something I said or did, she tells him, then he calls and gets on me. It's not fun.
She and I get along good, but she is a drama queen. Always making something out of nothing.
My son used to love my cat. Now he never pets him when he comes over. He whistles real loud and scares him away. I won't stand for that. I told him to please not do that and he laughs. What could possibly be the problem here? Last night I went to his graduation from electrical school. (Apprentice to Journeyman) He's a hard worker and I told him how proud I am of him. Wrong thing to do. He got angry and said he's sick and tired of my compliments and being so nice to him.
Do you have any advice for me? I'm going to Hawaii for 10 days next week and don't even feel he deserves to know where I am. He's so rude. I just want to get away and relax. I'll do whatever you recommend. He's gone to counseling with me once and didn't like it. He even told the counselor that he doesn't know why he's so rude to me. It sure hurts. He's my only son (only child) and lived a wonderful life so far. He's a hard worker and really doesn't act like a spoiled brat other than with me. Otherwise he's a striving hard worker wanting to own his own electrical company one day. I'm certain he'll do it too. Thank you so much. Linda ([email protected])
So far I've told him to stop talking to me like that, stop treating me like dirt. He just yells back and tells me I'm being ridiculous. He will also debate me constantly. Whatever I say, he acts like he's cross examining me. Terrible. I have a new boat and I had a neighbor friend come and help me get it started one day. Needed to be primed a bit to get the fuel flowing. My son is now saying that my neighbor is a jerk, & that he want to just use my boat. He has his own boat!