12 yr old son becoming very disobedient, and obstinate last…

Hello and Thank You for responding. It is true that children will test their parents during the teenage years. However continued disobedience is not the norm. You may even have a gut feeling that something just is not right. Since you have already spoken with a pediatrician, seek a second opinion from a child psychologist. You can get a referral from the pediatrician.

Here are some things to look for if your son has had ODD:

Behaviors are persistent and have lasted at least six months...or so
Behaviors are clearly disruptive to the family and home or school environment

The following are behaviors associated with ODD:
Negativity
Defiance
Disobedience
Hostility directed toward authority figures

These behaviors might cause your child to regularly and consistently show these signs and symptoms:
Temper tantrums
Argumentativeness with adults
Refusal to comply with adult requests or rules
Deliberate annoyance of other people
Blaming others for mistakes or misbehavior
Acting touchy and easily annoyed
Anger and resentment
Spiteful or vindictive behavior
Aggressiveness toward peers
Difficulty maintaining friendships

If your son is manifesting many of these behaviors, you need to be concerned and seek professional assistance so that his behavior does not become worse. He needs to develop intervention and coping strategies with the help of a professional.

Have a great day!

An easy route would first be to discuss the issues with the school psychologist which would be cost free. She would observe your son on several occasions and talk to him. Then she would determine if testing and/or counseling would be necessary. She /he would also work with you to assist in his behavioral home.