Those books were good. I wonder though, how much time
her mother is spending trying to find answers for her daughter's behavior ?
We are trying very hard to keep the faith and not be anxious.
The holiday was very difficult.
SD must be home from college and she did not come to the
Christmas Eve party that is held every year on her Dad's side.
We all went together for the past 10 years. No one asked us
anything, but I know they were all thinking it !
Her Dad was so sad and I fear the emotional pain is aging him
very quickly. He has chronic physical pain from a leg injury and this
feels like too much for him to bare.
He left a voicemail for her on the 25th simply saying Merry Christmas
and we love and miss you. So, you see there is always an opening
from him that is non threatening and she still does not respond.
How difficult can it be to leave a voicemail ?
I still think there is a reason she is making a point of this and not just
leaving the occasional message or any bone at all.
We did not write a letter because we want to see her physically so there is no misunderstanding. We would have to wonder where to send it, if she received it
and if she read it.
We did not want her to call us because of money, so
I sent a text to her mother two weeks ago to find out the Spring college expenses.
She replied Thank you and the total amount due. We will pay all of that
and then next Spring as well only because we keep our word. Not
because we have to ! When I saw that reply from her mother with no greeting,
name or salutation all I could think of was that people
have so much nerve. She and her whole family always said we made
such a difference in her daughter's life ! What is going on ???
How can she not be reeling that her daughter is acting this way ?
Does she not know that if anything happens her daughter is in for a
lifetime of unhappiness ?
When I married my husband, I signed up for the whole extended family thing.
Her mother and husband are my extended family and they have no empathy ?!
Mother is supposed to be this authentic life and yoga type person. What is up with
that ? I hope I see the law of Karma work someday in my life.
None of the pain I have experienced in my life
(and there has been a lot) compares to this !!!
SD will most likely be in our small town for another three weeks before
school starts again, but I have lost the desire to see her as you said unless she is ready. Why are we going through this ? I pray for an answer. I did not chime in on the Christmas
message hoping she would contact her Dad. If she is focusing her rage
on me, the stepparent, why doesn't she at least leave her Dad a message ?