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We have a 16-year-old daughter whom we trusted to stay at home

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We have a 16-year-old daughter whom we trusted to stay at home alone for a weekend. Instead of enjoying a quiet house as she had planned to do and promised, she invited a boy over (whom she has just met) and had sex with him. They used protection, but we feel nonetheless that our trust has been betrayed and that she has fundamentally deceived us. We had prided ourselves on having a great open relationship with her and that she was a mature young woman, but we feel now that we have to impose a consequence for her deception. We were planning to help her finance an overseas trip with her school next year (which includes this boy), but we feel that we want to withdraw that support as a consequence of her behaviour. Are we over-reacting?

Submitted: 5 years ago.
Category: Parenting
Expert:  proexpert37 replied 5 years ago.
Hello and Thank You for using Just Answer. I am sorry to hear about your daughter's deception. You are definitely not over- reacting in withdrawing support for her overseas trip. Your daughter broke the bond of trust. She must suffer some stiff consequences. To have a young man over and parade around your house with your daughter is very disrespectful on the part of your daughter and the young man. I would be leery of even allowing here to go on the overseas trip knowing that the young man will be going as well. There us obviously some sexual chemistry between them and who knows what might happen overseas without the watchful eyes of parents.
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