Parenting

Have parenting questions? Ask a parenting counselor for answers

Ask an Expert,
Get an Answer ASAP!

We have a 16-year-old daughter whom we trusted to stay at home…

Customer Question
We have a 16-year-old daughter...
We have a 16-year-old daughter whom we trusted to stay at home alone for a weekend. Instead of enjoying a quiet house as she had planned to do and promised, she invited a boy over (whom she has just met) and had sex with him. They used protection, but we feel nonetheless that our trust has been betrayed and that she has fundamentally deceived us. We had prided ourselves on having a great open relationship with her and that she was a mature young woman, but we feel now that we have to impose a consequence for her deception. We were planning to help her finance an overseas trip with her school next year (which includes this boy), but we feel that we want to withdraw that support as a consequence of her behaviour. Are we over-reacting?

Maria
Submitted: 6 years ago.Category: Parenting
Show More
Show Less
Ask Your Own Parenting Question
Answered in 28 minutes by:
11/8/2011
Parenting Counselor: proexpert37, Educator/Life Coach replied 6 years ago
proexpert37
proexpert37, Educator/Life Coach
Category: Parenting
Satisfied Customers: 1,375
Experience: Teacher 20+ years, Parent, Expert Mentor
Verified
Hello and Thank You for using Just Answer. I am sorry to hear about your daughter's deception. You are definitely not over- reacting in withdrawing support for her overseas trip. Your daughter broke the bond of trust. She must suffer some stiff consequences. To have a young man over and parade around your house with your daughter is very disrespectful on the part of your daughter and the young man. I would be leery of even allowing here to go on the overseas trip knowing that the young man will be going as well. There us obviously some sexual chemistry between them and who knows what might happen overseas without the watchful eyes of parents.
proexpert37
proexpert37, Educator/Life Coach
Category: Parenting
Satisfied Customers: 1,375
Experience: Teacher 20+ years, Parent, Expert Mentor
Verified
proexpert37 and 87 other Parenting Specialists are ready to help you
Ask your own question now
Was this answer helpful?

How JustAnswer works

step-image
Describe your issueThe assistant will guide you
step-image
Chat 1:1 with a parenting counselorLicensed Experts are available 24/7
step-image
100% satisfaction guaranteeGet all the answers you need
Ask proexpert37 Your Own Question
proexpert37
proexpert37
proexpert37, Educator/Life Coach
Category: Parenting
Satisfied Customers: 1,375
1,375 Satisfied Customers
Experience: Teacher 20+ years, Parent, Expert Mentor

proexpert37 is online now

A new question is answered every 9 seconds

How JustAnswer works:

  • Ask an ExpertExperts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional AnswerVia email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site. Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction GuaranteeRate the answer you receive.

JustAnswer in the News:

Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.

What Customers are Saying:

Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help.

Mary C.Freshfield, Liverpool, UK

This expert is wonderful. They truly know what they are talking about, and they actually care about you. They really helped put my nerves at ease. Thank you so much!!!!

AlexLos Angeles, CA

Thank you for all your help. It is nice to know that this service is here for people like myself, who need answers fast and are not sure who to consult.

GPHesperia, CA

I couldn't be more satisfied! This is the site I will always come to when I need a second opinion.

JustinKernersville, NC

Just let me say that this encounter has been entirely professional and most helpful. I liked that I could ask additional questions and get answered in a very short turn around.

EstherWoodstock, NY

Thank you so much for taking your time and knowledge to support my concerns. Not only did you answer my questions, you even took it a step further with replying with more pertinent information I needed to know.

RobinElkton, Maryland

He answered my question promptly and gave me accurate, detailed information. If all of your experts are half as good, you have a great thing going here.

DianeDallas, TX

< Previous | Next >

Meet the Experts:

Cher

Cher

Teacher

108 satisfied customers

Extensive Experience working with Children/Teens; M.A. Teacher/Tutor 40+ yrs.; Parent of 2

Jennifer

Jennifer

School Psychologist

77 satisfied customers

Collaborative parent consultation on everything from modifying behavior to child development.

professional_Alison

professional_Alison

Child Care

77 satisfied customers

Degree in early years,16 years experience in childcare

Dr. L

Dr. L

Psychologist

40 satisfied customers

Licensed as psychologist and marriage and family therapist

Dr. Shirley Schaye

Dr. Shirley Schaye

Doctor

38 satisfied customers

PhD-Psych; Certif. Psychoanalyst NPAP& NYFS; Memb.APsaA;IPA; Pub.Author; Teach/Supervise Therapy

Eveningstargazer

Eveningstargazer

Family Counselor

31 satisfied customers

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT)

Alicia_MSW

Alicia_MSW

Family Counselor

21 satisfied customers

Licensed social worker and psychotherapist

< Previous | Next >

Related Parenting Questions
I am having major problems with my 15 year old daughter. how
Hi, I am having major problems with my 15 year old daughter. how do you help. … read more
John-Michaels
John-Michaels
Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
41 satisfied customers
My daughter is 19 years old. She works at McDonalds and seems
My daughter is 19 years old. She works at McDonalds and seems in no hurry to go to college. This is her choice and I do not try to influence her one or another way since she is an adult. However, the … read more
Norman M.
Norman M.
Partner in private practice
Adv Dip Psychotherapy (with Distinc
101 satisfied customers
I am in WA state. My 21 year old son got involved with the
I am in WA state. My 21 year old son got involved with the daughter of our religious congregation. It was proven that this man had sexually abused his daughters, and the e father was convicted, and mo… read more
Elliott, LPCC, NCC
Elliott, LPCC, NCC
Adjunct Professor
Master's Degree
1,014 satisfied customers
Hello, Im raising my 16 year old brother on my own here
Hello, I'm raising my 16 year old brother on my own here in Canada. My parents work overseas, and I've been on my own for roughly 4 years. My brother just moved in with me 2 weeks ago from Saudi Arabi… read more
Norman M.
Norman M.
Partner in private practice
Adv Dip Psychotherapy (with Distinc
101 satisfied customers
Help! I am a single dad of a 9 year old boy. Today we are
Help! I am a single dad of a 9 year old boy. Today we are supposed to be heading to a campground with his cub scout troop. He had slept over at a friends house last night and just came home. His buddy… read more
proexpert37
proexpert37
Educator/Life Coach
Master's Degree
1,375 satisfied customers
I am divorced now have been for about 18months. I had to leave
I am divorced now have been for about 18months. I had to leave an abusive relationship-- it got to the stage where i felt i didnt have a choice--his verbal abuse and manipulative behaviour was so bad.… read more
Heidi LPC
Heidi LPC
Master\u0027s Degree
19 satisfied customers
Kid just came back from college after 1 semester. Did a drop
Kid just came back from college after 1 semester. Did a drop past deadline for an F in one class. Very spoiled with doting grandparents. Signed up for one class at community college to humor adults an… read more
proexpert37
proexpert37
Educator/Life Coach
Master's Degree
1,375 satisfied customers
I just found out that my 11 year old daughter stole a doll
I just found out that my 11 year old daughter stole a doll from a 2nd grader. She confessed to the principal after he asked what had happened. She told him that her friend told her to do it...and she … read more
proexpert37
proexpert37
Educator/Life Coach
Master's Degree
1,375 satisfied customers
Our 14 year old daughter is not making good choices socially.
Our 14 year old daughter is not making good choices socially. Her adjustment coming from small Catholic school to public high school has been hard. Although she was already in counseling and has had a… read more
proexpert37
proexpert37
Educator/Life Coach
Master's Degree
1,375 satisfied customers
Hi i have just found out that my 14 year old daughter has had
Hi i have just found out that my 14 year old daughter has had sex with three boys that weren't her boyfriends. When I asked her about it she said it's just sex and no big deal.How do I handle this?… read more
proexpert37
proexpert37
Educator/Life Coach
Master's Degree
1,375 satisfied customers
I need help. I dont know what to do with my daughter. I am
I need help. I don't know what to do with my daughter. I am a single mother of 5 children (ages 24, 22, 17, 16 and 14). My 14 year old has recently started lying about everything, she is grumpy and ru… read more
proexpert37
proexpert37
Educator/Life Coach
Master's Degree
1,375 satisfied customers
Hi, my 4.5 year old son is acting aggressively in school with
Hi, my 4.5 year old son is acting aggressively in school with some bizzare behaviours as described by his teacher at PTM today. While he can sometimes be difficult at home, i find his aggressive behav… read more
Dr. Keane
Dr. Keane
Doctoral Degree
385 satisfied customers
My 2.5 yr old daughter disrespects her father/my spouse. For
My 2.5 yr old daughter disrespects her father/my spouse. For the most part she accepts him and they play, but periodically throughout the day and if he gets her up in the morning or tries to participa… read more
proexpert37
proexpert37
Educator/Life Coach
Master's Degree
1,375 satisfied customers
My 5yr old grandson is just way out of control and is acting
My 5yr old grandson is just way out of control and is acting crazy at home and school. My daughter has a 5 month yr old baby boy and naturally the behaviour has increased since the birth, however he h… read more
Jennifer
Jennifer
School Psychologist
Master's Degree
77 satisfied customers
My 14 year old daughter has been dating the same boy (14) fo
My 14 year old daughter has been dating the same boy (14) for a year and a half. I just found, through text messages that they have started sexual activity ("hand job"). Both sets of parents have cons… read more
Dr Rossi
Dr Rossi
Doctoral Degree
1,564 satisfied customers
What do I do with teenagers (15-16) that are experimenting
What do I do with teenagers (15-16) that are experimenting with alcohol. They know our rule is no underage drinking but they continue to go down that road. Is this normal? What should I do. I have had… read more
Dr.G.
Dr.G.
Counseling Psychologist
Doctoral Degree
449 satisfied customers
my daughter who has recently turned twelve has confided in
my daughter who has recently turned twelve has confided in me that her friend of the same age is engaging in sexual acts with her boyfriend who is also twelve. My daughter and i are very close and she… read more
danny541
danny541
Retired
608 satisfied customers
how do i deal with my daughter she brought a boy threw her ...
how do i deal with my daughter? she brought a boy threw her bedroom window at night when we were asleep.… read more
Ms Chase
Ms Chase
853 satisfied customers
Disclaimer: Information in questions, answers, and other posts on this site ("Posts") comes from individual users, not JustAnswer; JustAnswer is not responsible for Posts. Posts are for general information, are not intended to substitute for informed professional advice (medical, legal, veterinary, financial, etc.), or to establish a professional-client relationship. The site and services are provided "as is" with no warranty or representations by JustAnswer regarding the qualifications of Experts. To see what credentials have been verified by a third-party service, please click on the "Verified" symbol in some Experts' profiles. JustAnswer is not intended or designed for EMERGENCY questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals.

Disclaimer: Information in questions, answers, and other posts on this site ("Posts") comes from individual users, not JustAnswer; JustAnswer is not responsible for Posts. Posts are for general information, are not intended to substitute for informed professional advice (medical, legal, veterinary, financial, etc.), or to establish a professional-client relationship. The site and services are provided "as is" with no warranty or representations by JustAnswer regarding the qualifications of Experts. To see what credentials have been verified by a third-party service, please click on the "Verified" symbol in some Experts' profiles. JustAnswer is not intended or designed for EMERGENCY questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals.

Show MoreShow Less

Ask Your Question

x