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Yes, he says he is still going to the program. I know that he feels that everyone else (12 other people in program) have greater competence since they had either previous experience or woodshop in high school. The dept head told him that he had a good work ethic, and that everyone has their own learning curve, but, he has a history of giving up if he can't do well.
Never talks about his future in specifics except that he rated having a family "very high" on a questionairre he took in the hospital once. He is overweight - he was on a boatload of antidepressants - he's been weaned down to 2, and was diagnosed with pseudoCushings disease caused by his depression this summer.
Thank you for your response. I may have been unclear, but my main concern (right now) is how I can keep him on track - he gets derailed, and then gives up. Should I try some "tough love" consequences? I have told him that he can't come home if he doesn't complete the program-I said he can go live w/ his dad in the apt in the little town where my husband works -3 hours from home(so it's not like he would be homeless). My husband comes home every weekend.
I feel he should be able to attend the program Monday-Thursday, and then come home every weekend if he wants to. It's only 4 days! He gets so down on himself for not finishing anything, yet, he looks for excuses and gives up. I fear that he is going to try & repeat behaviours (excessive sleeping, not bathing, etc) that landed him in the hospital before so he can have an excuse to not finish the program. Should I proactively tell him that I see where this is headed, and I will stand firm - he finishes this program by hook or crook!