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Perfect mothers come in all shapes, sizes, colors, and philosophical leanings. They can be so diverse but they share qualities in common, that may be masked by differences in style, but in the final analysis are quite similar.
On the most general level, the most important quality of "the perfect mother" is the ability, strength, and wisdom to love unconditionally. Almost all women have direct access to their motherhood instincts to nurture, care for, and protect their children, and much of the unconditional love springs forth from this innate quality.
Some of these inherent qualities are also augmented by culturally transmitted techniques passed on by the mother's mother, and by other family (or tribal or community) members.
The perfect mother listens to her child with empathy and understanding, giving support and encouragement. She guides but doesn't judge. She corrects but doesn't punish. She builds up the child's confidence and self-esteem, and doesn't destroy it. She models good behavior and respect towards others. She does not promote jealousy between siblings, and teaches her children to beware of the hazards in their enviroment, whether rural or urban.
She walks the fine line between making her children feel secure while holding them close to her, and letting them learn independence by letting go, and knows when to do each.
A good mother is always a safe haven and a source of love.
Elliott Sewell. LPCC, NCC
- BA Case Western Reserve Univesity
- MA (Sociology) New York University
- MAE (Mental Health Counseling) Western Kentucky University
- Currently Adjunct Professor of Sociology, Nashville State Community College
- Currently in private practice as a psychotherapist