Thanks for your reply. You suggestions makes sense to me. I have already tried some of the suggestions listed in your email before. It does not help for this case.
"The daily after dinner park visits need to be curtailed to maybe only on the weekends. Can you take all of the kids to the park some days during the week?"
I tried this before. My daughter does not want to go to the park with me and other kids. She only wants to go out with Grandma.
"Make the time to talk with your daughter every day about how her day went. Take her shopping for new school clothes"
She does not want to talk with me and go out shopping with me. She only cares about grandma and shares her feeling with grandma. This becomes worse and worse when she grew up as teenagers. That makes me so sad.
"Maybe your daughter is resentful that you were not there enough as she was growing up and is not happy with you. Maybe she is jealous that you have a better relationship with her siblings. "
I do not think she is resentful to me. She does not hate me at all. She is very polite to me. But she just kept distance from me and shuts off her communication with me . I took her to activities with other kids (such as play mini golf and playing tennis) But she does not participate in our activities. She just reads book by herself.
"She claims that she will move out when your daughter goes to college but I fear that she will want to stay until the twins go to college as well."
Why do you think this way? My husband thinks the same as you. My husband thinks my mom just wants to stay in our house desperately forever. My husband thought Grandma was trying to stay here by building good relationship with my kids so that it is hard to ask her to leave. I hope this is not true since I believe the relationship between my mom and my daughter is pure and sincere. I love my mom, my daughter and my husband. I do not hurt any of their feelings.