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well i guess he has been feeling this way now since the beginning of the school year or shortly after that. Since Spetember of 2010. It just has progressibly gotten worse.
Does my son not have a single "friend" ? .......... well he does but like i said the ones from school like the football team "friends"... that he says he hangs with at lunch and break ... he says that he ask them to do things after school or on the weekend but they tell him that they are busy. Same with the old crowd that he has always hung with. They all seem to be busy. He says that he tries to contact these kids via text or facebook or whatever but he tells me that they ignore him and do not return his text or calls. I know that some of them have girlfriends now and i try to explain to him that they are busy with the GF. and after school and in the evening kids are doing homework and some may have jobs. I try to give him all the excuses that may make them busy. But he has never been invited to one party. (that might be a good thing :) ) but none the less, never been invited really anywhere to do anything with anyone! and it is getting worse. help~!
Hello my friend. As you know, high school is a time for lots of socializing and fun and exciting interactions. It is perpeplexing as to why all of your son's friends have turned their backs on him. Nonetheless, he must remain confident that he will develop future friendships or reestablish old ones. First of all, isolating himself in his room will certainly not help the situation. He must stay involved in clubs, sports, church, and community centers to share interests and ideas with others. Also, how has the outward behavior of your son been? Have you noticed any changes that his peers may have noticed as well? Does he stay friendly with others? Make sure that he always smiles, has a good attitude, and is a fun and good person to be around. He should be nice to everyone even if he feels depressed. Also, make sure that he practices good hygeine: wears neat clothes, is clean, smells good, brushes teeth, showers, wears deoderant, etc. Furthermore, make sure that your son has not been bad mouthing others or talking about others behind their backs. (Just trying to think of all situations that may cause others to make your son feel like an outcast) Friends will come and go as your son has learned. If he is so shy to the point where he has great difficulty making friends and has remained depressed over this situation, then you may want to seek counseling for him so that he can learn strategies in connecting with other individuals.
Hope this has provided some insight. If you need more advice, just ask.
Your son has only one more year left in high school. If this is any help to you and your son, he will soon be going off to college and make an entire new set of friends. Most people do not keep in contact with their high school friends. When he gets upset about the current situation of not having any friends, see if there are any relatives his age that he can pal around with. Also, maybe he can be a mentor to younger youths to build up his self confidence.