Hi. Thank you for coming back to me so quickly.
Finn is a young school starter with an August birthday, and also the youngest of two brothers (21 months between them). His brother is by contrast a November child, confident socially and a high achiever at sport and holds his own academically.
School is where Finn's social challenges all began. He is trying so hard to be noticed and heard that he comes across to his peers as often annoying and silly, so has always been a little immature among his peers and therefore suffers rejection time and again at school - paradoxically though he is confident on other levels. Though he is keen to be accepted he is not a follower and oftern takes himself out of a social gatherings to do his own thing. Nonetheless he speaks to me of rejection and people 'avoiding him' etc. often expressing deep anger and confusion. He thinks he is wonderful and funny and doesn't understand why others don't!
He did suffer the same experience in his last school, by the end of which he was much more settled and accepted (I perhaps should have left him there)... He want to be a alpha male but doesn't quite cut it!
Curiously, we have just had a successful day with friends from his new school and he was shining and bidable at bed time as a result, so he clearly yearns acceptance. Don't we all!
He seems to hold himself together at school (according to his teacher who insists he is fine...) but lets rip at home. His emotions manifest as anger and intolerance and disrupted sleep etc.
Part of me feels I need to stop interfering and let him find his own way but I am torn as I feel he also needs guidance - and of course as a mother it pains me to see him so lost. Ultimately, Finn needs to build his self esteem and find the social tools to bond with his peers.
Academically he is strong thankfully.
I hope this isn't too elaborate as an answer. Thank you for your questions. I look forward to hearing from you again.