Thank you, XXXXX XXXXX looked at counceling in the past however my husband is sceptical so we did not pursue it, I am looking at it again now as I am concerned because we are entering the teenage years. She is the oldest out of three. And now my youngest is taking some of her traits.
When my daughter is good we focus on that, however she is always in trouble at home, many times a day, unfortunately she sees constant negaitivity. She does have an extremely low self esteem. I know I have damaged her more trying to control the behaviour, I worry every day about her. I adore her. She feels that we don't love her, although we tell her often that we do. She feels like the black sheep, I sometimes compare her behaviour to her younger brother, which I know I probably shouldn't, but I think that if she can see that because he is so nice and caring and that her has lots of friends, then she might change, but it is not working.
I am very upset and concerned, sometimes when my husband get frustrated with her behaviour not changing, he threatens her with a boarding school.
I wish I could change so much, things that have been said and done, she is not abused she comes from a loving home, but she has been smacked in her years.