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i have 2 children,age 4& son who is 3yrs old steals everything.his

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i have 2 children,age 4& son who is 3yrs old steals everything.his sister has a speech inpediment, so it has been very diff to b at 1 place at 1 time. anywho, my son whos 3 in january has had a very bad stealing problem. the struggle wit the both of them has been very hard. so my question is, what can i do 2 teach him that it's very ,very,bad 2 take things that are not his. i need help,he's very smart 4 his age n i don't know what 2 do 2 get him 2 fully understand that he can not keep up this behavior. he has been this way for almost a year.
Submitted: 6 years ago.
Category: Parenting
Expert:  proexpert37 replied 6 years ago.
What is your son doing with the items that he steals?
Customer: replied 6 years ago.

He runs strait 2 his room n then h puts everything under the bed. it has got'n so bad that he steals dangerious items that could really hurt him or his sister. at times when he gets caught he puts the item under or behind things.etc. n i hope there is some advice that u or some 1 can give my family,this issue has gone way over board. thanku**

Expert:  proexpert37 replied 6 years ago.

Your son needs to develop a code of ethics which uist come from the parents as to what is right and wrong. Chidren under the age of 4 and 5 do not have complete concepts of ownership. They really do not understand that it is wrong to take things from others.


Your son may need to develop more self control. Allow your son to get what he needs in a honest way. Make him put objects back and ask for them if he wants to play with them. You must be consitent with this so that the code of ethics can be developed.


Maybe your son's basic needs are not being met as you might think they are. A child who feels like his needs are not being met will eventually take the matter into his own hands and take whatever he wants or needs. Are you more attentive to you daughter. Your son may be feeling an emotional lack in his life and feel empty inside and may take things to fill the void. He lacks the tools to express his felings.


When your child steals:

Stay calm. Do not over react.

Do not take it personal. He is stealing for attention.

Make sure your child know what he did wring,

Be a role model for your child.

Give him more responsibiities at home.


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