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Thank you for your reply. To make a short story short. We took the car and phone from her since we pay for them. Now she wants to talk and the things she wants is the car title, phone and funds that were in her bank account, which there were not her funds to begin with. Would we need a legal contract or just a contract for her to abide by I'm not sure. What are our options.
If your daughter moves back in and she is paying rent so to speak, then you can have her sign a renter's contract and she must abide by all of the rules and stipulations in the contract. If she is moving back in the house and you would rather not treat her as a renter with the strict rules, then you can create your own set of house rules and regulations with the necessary consequences that must be followed through with if she slips up. There is a fine line between both routes. It is up to you which path to take. You should also consider your daughter's personality, financial status, etc...
I just read your second reply. You do not need a legal contract. Just make an informal one. She needs to abide by your house rules. You are still her parents and she must follow the rules of the house or find another place to live. Do not give her the title to the car. She is not paying for it. It sounds like your daughter needs to become more responsible and receptive to your ideas as a parent. Maybe you can help her become a more responsible adult if she is back at home. I hope that she is in school or at least working!!!
If this has helped, please ACCEPT.
She is going to school and is working a part-time job. She just feels we don't let her live her life the way she wants to. She also has been mentally and physically abusing her younger sister because she feels we give her sister more privileges and attention. What can you suggest we do if she does return back home regarding this behavior? Please advise.