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My daughter is 8 and has a really hard time this year. From

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My daughter is 8 and has a really hard time this year. From the start of the year she hasn't got on with her teacher and is absolutely convinced he dislikes her.
Off course I had a meeting with the teacher and temp. principal at the time and they assured me she was over reacting and was herself very 'forgetful'.
At that meeting I found her teacher quite unhelpful and dismissive and he just shrugged his shoulders most of the time as if my daughter was talking rubbish.
It is now the last week of term and she has been crying every night for the past week not wanting to go to school at all. She says she is getting blamed for things she categorically did not do.
There is a new principal now, who is probably unaware of the problems earlier this year, and I don't know what to do.
To be honest, she is at home today because of this problem.
I know she will have a new teacher next term, but I feel this whole year has been a total waste of time. She has went backwards and has no confidence now.
Submitted: 8 years ago.
Category: Parenting
Expert:  Cher replied 8 years ago.

Where are you located? US, UK, elsewhere?

What grade is your daughter in? Third?

At what time during the school year, had you met with the teacher and acting Principal, to express your concerns?

What sort of things is the teacher blaming your daughter for doing, which she says she did not do?

Have you spoken to any of the other parents of your daughter's friends in her class, etc., and asked what they think of this teacher, and/or if their child has expressed similar concerns and happenings in the classroom, as your daughter has, during this past school year?

How long has the teacher been at this school, and teaching, in general? Have you ever been made aware of any complaints made against him, in the past?

How are your daughter's grades? Is she passing this year and will she be promoted to the next grade?

Thanks for all your additional detail.

Expert:  Cher replied 8 years ago.
Hello again,

I was hoping to get some additional information from you, but I would like to send you an answer now, so you can start working on the solution to this problem as soon as possible.

First, request a meeting with your daughter's guidance counselor and/or grade leader, etc., and the new Principal (the teacher is not included). Explain your concerns with her not getting what she should have, out of this past year of school, mainly due to a lacking on the teacher's part. Remind them that you attempted to resolve this problem earlier in the school year, but you were basically ignored and your daughter has been quite emotionally upset regarding her treatment by the teacher and is now giving you trouble about going to school. Ask if there have been any complaints this year, regarding this teacher's methods. They will most likely say 'no', but get in touch with the President of the Parent-Teacher Organization before your meeting at the school, and ask the same question, re: complaints about, or problems with, this teacher. I'm sure there have been other parent complaints. If you go into the meeting 'armed' with this information (don't mention any names, but you can relate specific situations/circumstances), it will be to your advantage.

Please remember, that even though your daughter had difficulties with her teacher this year, you need to make sure that she did everything possible to comply with instructions and do her work. If she had a tremendous amount of trouble with the schoolwork, where other students didn't, you might consider having her tested for possible learning disabilities. There's nothing to be ashamed of, if you do this testing. Every student learns in a different way, and if she does have learning disabilities, they will be identified and then she can get some additional help to learn in the best way she is able. She may have felt very frustrated this year, because the teacher was presenting the material in such a way, that she just didn't understand; AND it was the job of the teacher to recognize this earlier in the term and discuss it with you.

I hope things work out well with your daughter and she has a much better school year, next year!

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