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No, not at the moment but it's only really got bad over the last 10 days. They are not divorced. They also have a 17 year old son who has accepted the situation, though not me, which is understandable.
2 weeks ago my partner attempted a reconciliation with his wife but it failed. As a direct result of her rejection by him she has turned their 13 year old against his dad. My partner and the youngest son were extremely close before he left the marital home in August last year. His wife has continually used the children to get him back saying if he didn't 'dump' me he would never see them again. The older son has made his own decision but the youngest is influenced by her and her hatred.
My partner used to take his son to football practise on a Wednesday evening and then to the game on a Saturday. This has now stopped as his son won't return any calls or texts. My partner wants to stand on the side lines of the match this Sunday which I think is a good idea as it shows the child his dad still cares. But we're not sure if this will make things better or worse. My partner continues, as he always has, to text both sons every morning, his love and hope they have a good day.
His son text him a reply for the first time yesterday afternoon. Although the reply wasn't very nice at least the 'stand off' has hopefully finished.
I won't be attending any of the football matches I wouldn't put the child in such a difficult situation.
I suppose I was asking for some sort of guidance as to how long the son would refuse any contact with his dad - days, weeks, months. I suppose there's no answer to that is there?