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Hi I have just read lots of advice on whether its normal for a father to get an erection after playing with his child? I need to know if it is normal for the father getting a semi(80%)erection after playing with our 11y/o daughter. They were playing around (they always are) - she was pulling his hair on his legs and he was smacking her on the butt. They often play by giving each other 'wedgies'. I have noticed on several occasions that he has had a "semi" but I never said anything as I thought I was being paranoid. The last time he had a shower about 5 mins after playing with her as he was going off to nightshift and I confronted him whilst he was in the shower and he denied that it was a 'hard on' and I said bullshit. I then tried to calmly discuss it with him the next evening but he got angry and told me it was over(10 year marriage) and we are now sleeping in separate beds. I actually asked him why, not a dumb question, as I needed to know if he was sexually charged by playing with her, I even offered to get him help (as we all have to be so socially correct nowadays and not hang the buggers!), as I truly didn't know what to do. My kids come first, hence the confrontation - but the horrible thing is I am the one that is feeling guilty( I don't know why, as I am not a crazy hallucinating woman - I KNOW WHAT I SAW! And it makes me sick) we are now separating - his call as when I confronted him I asked if there was a reason for it and he denied it (the semi) being there. He wont even talk to us( daughters 13 and 11 and 8yo son), and he is treating me as if I have done something terrible. I do not believe that he has touched her inappropriately, but I cannot look at him the same as I cannot see why a man could get excited playing with his daughter. Please help me understand - is he a pedophile? Or is there another reason for it - that could mean that he doesn't want to touch her sexually but just cant help it (semis) as my gut reaction is to think of him as a sicko but I also want to try and remain clear headed and concise? As I there seems to be alot of useless bs online - but until I know more I am still going ahead to move out!