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Yes, it is possible that a female could have a congenital absence of the clitoris, but it is extremely rare. It would be more likely that the clitoris is present, but deeper in tissue than you or your boyfriend expect, so you and he are having difficulty identifying it.
A pelvic exam by your doctor would readily identify whether there is congenital absence of the clitoris.
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