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You should take your child with you when you go. When it comes time to sort out contact and access and the time she spends with each of you, then this is done through family mediation first and you dont need to go to court. If you have concerns about the safety of your child with him overnight then you should insist on her coming home each night, even if she stays with him during the day.The mediation works through Fiarway Resolution like this.The FDR mediator will work with you to clarify the issues you wish to discuss and help you generate possible solutions.After your discussions, the FDR mediator will help you draw up a parenting plan which may include the following:how much time the children will spend with each of youcontact arrangements for the other parent or care-giver, while the children are in your care. This may also include how the children will be changed over from one parent or caregiver to anotherhow the children will be involved in special occasions, for example birthdays, Christmas, mothers’/fathers’ dayshow the children’s holidays will be arrangedwhich school the children will attendhealth mattersreligious and cultural matters.During the mediation, everyone will have time to talk, to consider suggestions, to take a break, and to talk individually to the FDR mediator before making final decisions.The FDR mediator will help you write up the parenting plan into a mediated agreement and if you are happy with it, you will be asked to sign it.